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Last train to Loserville Part 2

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LoserNoMore Sun 07-Apr-13 21:55:44

After the overwhelming support I've received on my thread I had to start another. Well I didn't have to but I have found all the advice so helpful that even if I only receive one more piece it will help.

I'll try and post the link to the full sorry story. Never linked on my phone before so it may not work.

http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1722750-This-doesnt-look-good-does-it?pg=40&order=

captainbarnacle Sun 07-Apr-13 22:37:27

I too am addicted to your thread - cannot believe after ignoring you for the crucial first two days, he now thinks that there is an 'us' to discuss on Wednesday! Deluded dickweed.

Your girls are so lucky to have such a brilliant role model for a mum x

Pan Sun 07-Apr-13 22:39:05

Been lurking since the v start. Good name-change. Agreeing with all the sentiments.

CabbageLeaves Sun 07-Apr-13 22:39:48

Work will be fine once you're there I'm dreading work tomorrow

I'm still angry at the thought that he thinks he can expect to talk about you when he was texting a woman to get her boobs out for him a matter of days ago. It's so entitled.

CabbageLeaves Sun 07-Apr-13 22:41:08

Not sure quite why I'm so angry on your behalf grin maybe astonished best describes it Its just a bizarre mindset.

emsibub Sun 07-Apr-13 22:46:03

You really are an inspiration. Your strength, wow. Think in your shoes I would like to think I react the same but there would be a lot more wallowing! Personally I wouldn't of being able to resist the meet up if only to tell him what he has done to you. OP I wish you all the best! X

LoserNoMore Sun 07-Apr-13 22:48:37

I'm angry too, and astonished, infact I'm a heap of different emotions. He is definitely clinging on for dear life. He is getting angry too, I can tell by his texts. He really must have expected me to have forgiven him by now.

skyebluesapphire Sun 07-Apr-13 23:04:46

Poppadom - thanks for that, cant get the bloody song out of my head now grin

glad you have started another thread. I think you will need the support if you waver. and the support is here, no matter which way your life goes from now.

The anger will be at himself for being such a twat, but of course he will have to take it out on you instead.

You are doing so well. People keep saying it, but you really are

ladymariner Sun 07-Apr-13 23:08:48

Glad to have found your new thread, I too am totally inspired by your courage and dignity.

Walkacrossthesand Sun 07-Apr-13 23:12:24

'There is no us' - fantastic.

Pan Sun 07-Apr-13 23:15:08

It goes with the v useful " No IS a complete sentence."

cjel Sun 07-Apr-13 23:18:17

Glad i found you . didn't know where to look. Hope you have a good night.x

ladyjadie Sun 07-Apr-13 23:18:26

He really must have expected me to have forgiven him by now.

His head is so far up his own ass it would be laughable, if he hadn't caused you so much needless pain. You have been heroic in the face of all this, as expressed by, oh, everyone who has been following your story. Him? Worthless coward. You are well rid. You already have a p*ssy, you don't need another one hanging around!

Chucksteak Sun 07-Apr-13 23:30:47

Great name change - some men just like to press that big red "Self Destruct" button thinking with their dicks.

You sound like an incredible woman - kudos to you.

Look out for pathetic letters and presents next week when he tries to "win" you back! grin

DragonMamma Sun 07-Apr-13 23:30:53

Great name...very apt! Going to catch up with the old one now. See what other fantasies he's mustered up today.

DragonMamma Sun 07-Apr-13 23:35:20

Caught up...he's absolutely mad. Discuss 'us'?! What planet is he living on - it's scary that he thinks there's a way to come back from this when you've clearly told him to fuck the fuck off.

willyoulistentome Sun 07-Apr-13 23:39:02

I'm keeping an eye on you too, and wishing you all the very best. Good luck.

LoserNoMore Sun 07-Apr-13 23:51:06

I don't know this person at all. This person who only a week ago was telling me how much he loved me. It's all been a sham.

That's the thing that is so confusing too. Has he done this before, has he been doing it for years? Makes me feel sick.

piratecat Sun 07-Apr-13 23:53:04

the overpowering amounts of aftershave aren't helping his brain cell either.

been following your thread LNM, and just wanted to add that i think you're doing amazingly. Hope you get some rest tonight.x

candodad Mon 08-Apr-13 00:03:02

He clearly doesn't see what he has done is so bad. Been lurking for a while reading the thread and it strikes me that even his friends must have known about this since it was one of them that picked him up that night (if I remember rightly) I mention this because you said that a friend of yours pm you in FB claiming to have only just found out.

He's a dick and the only thing he is sorry about is being caught.

Just popping in to say hello again.

smile

LoserNoMore Mon 08-Apr-13 00:15:33

Hi cjel, juniper, dragonmamma. Ahh hate not mentioning everyone, my laptop has died and I'm on my phone trying to scroll. I was playing balloon tennis with the girls and accidentally kicked my laptop across the room earlier tonight. Numpty!

I've had 2 glasses of phone and feel totally relaxed. I'll sleep we'll tonight despite the lack of tramp bouncing.

candodad Mon 08-Apr-13 00:38:20

If you have a phone that takes apps try the MN app. I find it easier than the forum board. grin

LoserNoMore Mon 08-Apr-13 00:42:49

Thanks candodad, I'll try that smile

Areyoumadorisitme Mon 08-Apr-13 00:53:26

I hope the glasses of phone were good gringrin

Great to see you've started another thread, I continue to think you're doing brilliantly. Keep it up smile

Beckamaw Mon 08-Apr-13 00:54:14

2 glasses of phone and tramp bouncing! grin
Glad to find your new thread lady.
He's a right twat, isn't he?

I know it's easy to tie yourself in knots wondering what he has done before and whether you should have seen signs.
As a decent and dignified human being, you had no expectation of him being anything other. Now you've found out that this is not quite the case.
His loss. He will regret this for his entire life. You, however, will repair and flourish.

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