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This doesn't look good does it?

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Loserville Tue 02-Apr-13 19:37:33

My dh left for work at 5pm, 10 mins later I get a text from him 'Hi sexy, get your boobs out'. I just replied with a ? And had no reply.

He never sends text like that to me thank god so I'm thinking it was meant for someone else. Why send me a text like that after just leaving the house 10 minutes before.

It looks suspicious doesn't it? Or else it's a pathetic attempt at spicing things up confused

marriedinwhiteagain Tue 02-Apr-13 20:09:51

Could he have lost his phone? Have you tried ringing him or going to his workplace? Really hoping there's a sensible and true explanation.

digerd Tue 02-Apr-13 20:12:24

ps
when you got the text.

Coconutty Tue 02-Apr-13 20:12:51

Bit odd, sounds like something a 13YO boy would send.

Lavenderhoney Tue 02-Apr-13 20:13:02

What work does he do? Could he be texting someone as a joke he works with?

If he hasn't sent you the text ( workmate whilst driving or someone else they collected grabbed the wrong phone or another tenuous excuse) then he would have received one saying ? From you which he has ignored either because he hasn't noticed or he thinks it can wait til later as he doesn't have a clue what you mean.

Well, I suppose you will be able to look at his phone when he gets back unless he has deleted all the evidence. Look at any names above and below yours, plus some bills are itimised. Have a look at any SMS logged ones when he is working?

I got something like this once and it was pathetic watching my then bf trying to wiggle out of it. I am not the sharpest pixie in the forest but even I knew he was shining me on. Hope it's nothing though.

CostaTen Tue 02-Apr-13 20:16:39

I think it's the fact that he hasn't texted or phoned with an explanation after you replied that makes it sound more suspicious.

tungthai Tue 02-Apr-13 20:26:03

When I worked in a male environment the females were subjected to these type of comments all the time, it was hideous.

My bil indulges in sexist banter on fb telling his female colleagues to make sure they bake cakes and wear a low cut top when they are working his shift.

I think your dh is probably a sexist pig, I don't necessarily think he is cheating.

feel free to come and chat about what happens later OP.
I hope it goes ok & he has a bloody good reason for ignoring your follow up text (that wasn't because he shat himself & spent the next few hours panicking) brew

Fairenuff Tue 02-Apr-13 20:55:38

You don't seem overly bothered op, has this happened before?

If it were me, I would be on the phone speaking to him as soon as possible.

maleview70 Tue 02-Apr-13 20:58:31

He might not have replied as it might not be him who sent it and therefore he doesn't even know you have read it and replied. His phone may be off or in the van.

If it was me having a bit on the side and I sent this to my wife by mistake and then realised, I would have thought of an excuse and replied straight away.

It is also possible he was texting a mate. Men are stupid when it comes to work pranks etc. It's the sort of thing a mate of mine would send.

to be honest I'd have called him when he ignored it, to check that it was just something stupid so I didn't start wondering about it...

Loserville Tue 02-Apr-13 21:16:52

Fairenuff, I am bothered but just not trying to get myself worked up. Nothing like this has happened before, been married for 10 years, 3 children. No problems or issues that I'm aware of.

Isn't he meant to be home by now OP?

Have you tried ringing?

MrsSpagBol Tue 02-Apr-13 21:21:33

OP is he home yet. flowers

It's not looking any better if he's late home too.

Hope you're alright OP brew

Ahhhcrap Tue 02-Apr-13 21:25:41

No it doesn't look good.. Especially because he hasn't responded....

Maybe his mates have nicked his phone, or it could be something below the belt.

Coconutty Tue 02-Apr-13 21:28:12

Well, where the fuck is he then?

Hope you're having a chat & are getting a decent honest answer thanks

Loserville Tue 02-Apr-13 21:39:50

He was due to finish at 9pm, 20 minute drive home so he's late. Tried calling but phone unavailable. The phone signal for Vodafone is shitty here at times so won't jump to conclusions just yet. Sometimes he works over the time he's meant to finish.

Ok, well I hope you're not stweing too bad & are just keeping calm til you hear what he's got to say. You'll probably be able to tell if you've been together that long to be honest so I hope it is just a misunderstanding.

OhLori Tue 02-Apr-13 21:42:02

Its just got to be a practical joke OP.

Still :-( for you waiting to find out.

ohtobecleo Tue 02-Apr-13 21:49:00

On the plus side....if the phone reception is shitty he may not have been able to reply to your ? (or he may not even have got it?)

Clutching at straws for you OP.

Verbalpunchbag Tue 02-Apr-13 22:03:29

I've known lads take each others phones and put stupid things on each others fb, never a text though.

specialsubject Tue 02-Apr-13 22:10:09

he forgot his phone, some 'joker' grabbed it and sent the text, then turned it off. Hence you haven't had a reply.

or he left the phone unattended and your response isn't there yet - texts can take 24 hours, happens to me a lot. or he didn't hear it.

at least I hope so. But the fact you have jumped straight on MN to post this indicates all is not well.

VitoCorleone Tue 02-Apr-13 22:10:48

Hope you get to the bottom of it

tillyann2013 Tue 02-Apr-13 22:13:10

I totally agree with you special, the thought wouldn't cross my mind!

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