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I don't no how to fix us anymore :(

(257 Posts)
Twinkletwinklestars Tue 26-Mar-13 21:45:25

Here goes....

I'm probably hard to live with at times, two children in two years has worn me down a bit.
I don't have much time to give him (husband) more attention that he asks for.
I make him angry because I'm not earning money as on maternity leave besides he says I can't go back to work unless I work nights. He finds the children hard work. He is very stressed due to money.
I can't seem to keep on top of the housework very well these days. Having his t ready on time is getting harder too.
He shouts lots tells me daily that I can't do anything right, I'm an fkin idot,thick and I should not talk. I think I've just let things get really bad, he's really scared me a few times so I normally pop my head down and get on. Sometimes I shout back but I'm never right.
Then there's lovely normal times where the amazing calm man I married is. He's a good dad, nice person and gets on with ppl.
I don't no how to fix us any ideas?

Twinkletwinklestars Sun 21-Apr-13 13:46:30

Wouldn't have a clue about money
Don't no what he earns, how much bills are etc.

I never ask for money unless I really need something for dc or need petrol for anything to do with dc. Hate asking for anything. He always says he doesn't have enough money to support us. I often have to ask others for money on his behalf. He puts lots of pressure on me. Don't have access to accounts other then my own. I get the cb in my account.

Twinkletwinklestars Sat 27-Apr-13 09:08:56

Every Friday he drives my ds in the morning. He drinks lots the night before and point blank refuses to let me drive. He also insists he's not over the limit anymore. I'm not so sure. How would I find out? It's very differcult as he won't listen to me. He will just storm out with my ds. He will scare me.what can I do? Thought about calling the police but if he found out he would be so angry and I'm scared of what he would do.

Been talking to wa and am meeting up with them again. I can't stand him he will never change. He says he will leave for good once he's found a flat. Don't think I can wait that long. Can't wait for him to go.

Jux Sat 27-Apr-13 12:41:26

I think that the next time he scares you, you should just call the police. intimidation is emotional abuse.

Twinkletwinklestars Fri 03-May-13 18:23:57

Need to start a new thread now were separated, what I do now.
One things for sure the pressure of him not being here is lovely. Calm atmosphere not use to it smile

MadBusLady Fri 03-May-13 19:04:04

Hi Twinkle, I'm so pleased you're feeling the difference already! Did he find a flat and go?

If you haven't done it already, make an appointment with your local CAB (search box on right). They will take you through what happens with regards benefits/tax credits etc.

Have you seen WA again? They are probably best placed to point you towards local solicitors etc for getting a settlement drawn up.

Twinkletwinklestars Sat 04-May-13 14:38:37

Thanks mad bra lady.
No he's living in a nice place rent free!

Don't no what happens now really. Just try and find somewhere to live I guess. My landlord can't just evict us can he?

Any advice on how to explain it to dc? It's hard having him cry for him all the time

Twinkletwinklestars Sun 21-Jul-13 08:31:02

Just when I start to feel sorry for him I read this again.

Thanks so much for all advice

Still apart grin never going back grin
It's tough but not as tough as living with him.

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