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Dating thread number 48 :-)(1000 Posts)
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I think I know deep down that this relationship is doomed! Thank you OWW and Lulu, very wise words indeed! I don't think I can even talk to him about how I feel without him getting irritated, which in itself is a huge problem. The trouble is I really do like this guy and think it could be fabulous but I think we are both a bit screwed up still from our previous relationships. I feel like I am settling for crumbs at the moment - why has my self respect abandoned me?! I am going to have this weekend away with him and then talk to him next week.
Kirsty - it sounds complicated! However, if Mr Hungarian doesn't mind taking on the boss then go for it - life goes on and all that!
Smoothie - I still miss my STBexH at times but I know there's no going back. I think it's normal to feel this way after spending so long with someone
even if he was a total fuckwit
Smooth I think that if a decent man comes into the picture, it can feel like you are on another step of the moving on process. It can cause a wobble. Go on the date
48 Mr R&R is really out to impress at the moment isn't he? Think he is feeling a bit worried Glad you had a good night, still green! Never mind, that will be me soon - well not actually with Mr R&R, you understand, but with an R&Ralike of my own.
have decided I am going to name change, when I can work out how to do it. slight possibility someone in RL may recognise me from my not so subtle name. Be nice to me when I post in my new guise!!
Thanks OWW Pixie and 48
I too would like an R&Ralike - no major ishoos, big laughs and good sex - what's not to like? In fact I'd like to add my if I may!
I have en e-cig but can't use it - it makes me cough like I've been on 100 woodbines a day, not 20 sterling! it would be effing amazing if it wasn't for that.
what brands of them have you got MsC and 48?
OWW and all I do indeed have a cunning plan! I am fretting no more, over the details.
... and I forgot to say that I had coffee with my first ever boyfriend (was with him for 3 years and lived together briefly) whom I hadn't seen for 25 years. Was really nice to catch up and he's one of life's really good guys. He hasn't aged well though (he hits 50 this year and looks every one of those years and more).
I had a text a few days later along the lines of 'I can't stop thinking about you, can we try again, I'd be prepared to do all the travelling... etc' - after 25 years of no contact followed by a half hour coffee!!!
smoothieooo that sounds very flattering, but also a little alarming, poor chap, you might be wondering if it was wise to stir up an old love like that?
Christ if I was starting to wondering like that about any of my exs I would be booking myself in for a check up from the neck up (not that you are like any of my ex's smoothieoooo)
Lubey I have 'cigirex' I have had a puff, a small puff. I was warned they take your throat out.
Smooth Agree with Mercury Nice. Maybe a little too nice.
OWW Mr R&R hasn't said a word about Mr OZ. I can't imagine my life without him. OMG I have got it bad.
Anyone Yorkshire way? Is the snow bad?
Mr R&R is due to drive up for Easter to see his sister and her DCs. I so want him to able to go. He hasn't any kids, told me over the weekend about failed IVF treatments with his ex. It was heart breaking to listen to, I had my two so easily.
lubey - I went through these people www.ecigclick.co.uk/jacvapour-review/
and then bought jacvapour kit using their discount.
I got prefilled cartomisers (where do these words come from) and they gave me a bit of a sore throat but also bought blanks and VG liquid in tobacco flavour - and that doesn't give me sore throat. Am waiting on cherry and vanilla liquid to arrive
Had 3 real cigs today and no real cravings other than feeling like I need to light up. I have to be honest, the feeling after having a real one is no different to after the ecig. But my smoking is so ingrained in my life I am still needing to smoke proper. But today is easier than yesterday and yesterday was easier than sunday
Just found LM (I think) on Match. No photos up and a different name from before but I'm sure it's him. Personality type reliable! My arse. I would have avoided him if he'd had a photo, was just surfing a bit in my lunch hour. Have a feeling he's been on all along. Still he will see me out and about looking as well seeing as I've clicked on his profile.
This is the man who a couple of days ago was spinning me a load of guff about how all his time is taken up with work and family and he just can't give me what I need.
Now I really do feel like a fool.
Let it go, Western, let it go.
OWW got to refer you back to your 12.30 post on the other thread again... hang on to that, it will help
I think he has another profile on there too for the town he works in - very similar user name. I've not clicked on it though. Would someone have a look for me please and tell me what the profile says?
These keep coming up in my searches - can I hide him if he's not messages me?
He has well and truly played me.
*Oww *- I can look pm me the details. If you've got an iPhone I will screen shot and send you the photos
OWW - you're giving him too much head space hon.
You don't need any more validation or confirmation that you were right, seriously.
I would leave match altogether for a while rather than hiding him etc.
OWW personally I wouldn't look, whether it is him or not, you are the one who decided it was over and that HE couldn't give YOU what you want.
FWIW, I don't think he has played you, you certainly are not a fool. A more likely scenario is that if it is him, he has just got straight back on Match to have a look around in the last day or so.
Concentrate on your future, your happiness, you are the important one and YOU are the prize, not LM
Thanks Tigsy but I found him on Match, full profile with photo and all, and active in last 48 hours, earlier this month - he explained it away but I think he just went and set up some different profiles when he was rumbled.
I am really fed up as it is just another example of me falling for his crap, both about the profile and about why he couldn't give me what I need, but he's there advertising himself as reliable and all that for another poor sucker.
Lubey I know, I am just a bit pissed off as I was having a happy half hour checking out blokes on Match and there the bugger is. It is these things popping up out of the blue that is a bit of a shock. I really don't want to have to worry about seeing his profile when I am on there so if anyone knows how I can hide it then that would be good. If I can hide him, will he still be able to see me? Again, I'd rather he couldn't, no reason but I would rather just have him not know anything more about what I am doing even if it's knowing when I am online.
I have never used match properly so no idea about hiding etc. Hence it seems easier to just leave match... there's plenty of other sites. It does make sense i suppose to block him if you know how though.
I know OWW , I think the explanation then was genuine and these are possibly new profiles in the last day or so. IF it is him, and if he has had them up all the time, then more fool him, for risking and losing lovely you!
I think, if I recall on Match, if you view a profile you can then hide it, but not sure if they can still see you. You may just have to bite the bullet and accept he may know you are online. But ultimately it is his loss and all it will prove is that you are out there, getting on with your life.
Thanks, Tigsy, it doesn't really matter if he knows when I'm online, but I really don't want to see his profile(s) popping up at me, especially if he gets his act together and puts a photo up. I will have a look on someone else's profile to see if you can hide it, and will just do that.
Lubey unfortunately I've been suckered in to Match by a (very good) special offer and have sprung for some cash to be on there, otherwise I would just abandon it!
Right, wobble over, it just took me by surprise, that's all. So, if I can get rid of traces of him from my house, work PC and Match I think I should have it just about covered!
Which bit of Yorkshire is he coming to 48? York has no snow, this Leeds Bradford Airport has had some (snow piled up by sides of roads etc) but there is quite a lot of Yorkshire
Might be a little excited
Are you waiting at the airport Miranda?
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