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Dating thread number 48 :-)

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MirandaWest Mon 25-Mar-13 23:36:21

Here's the latest thread for everything dating related. All welcome smile

daddyspence Thu 28-Mar-13 11:57:27

thanks bant i wont be rushing into anything that meetup.com does sound like the thing id like to try first before going on dates.

48howdidthathappen Thu 28-Mar-13 12:07:01

I can assure you all that there are men out there, that are clean and sexy with stamina. Most importantly isssue free. I have one grin

Rainy Proceed with caution. When I first joined POF I was chatting to a lovely sweet guy. I then spoke to him on the phone, I got the feeling he was booking the church. I ran for the hills.

OWW Have a blast tonight smile

Welcome Spence My father was from up north. Went up there often as a child. I love the accent.

MirandaWest Thu 28-Mar-13 12:09:54

I'm from up North smile Was born up North and lived up North (different sides of Pennines) growing up. Then lived down south for 10 years.

Sadly no trace of a Northern accent sad Just sound boring. Would like a proper accent.

KirstyWirsty Thu 28-Mar-13 12:14:44

wine you should read 'Women who love too much' I found it an eye opener as I was always a rescuer

daddyspence Thu 28-Mar-13 12:20:13

im sure your accent would come back if you ever managed to spend some time up north again miranda

48howdidthathappen Thu 28-Mar-13 12:23:43

Miranda Yay! For nakedness grin

I was a rescuer for over 20 years. Learned my lesson.

I sound like a country bumpkin smile

lubeybooby Thu 28-Mar-13 12:30:45

MeetUp.com is ace. I'm going to a do next month of theirs. Dinner, drinks, and then a relaxed sort of gig in a nice place. They do all sorts though, just meeting for lunch or even days out with the kids sometimes. Also cinema, theatre, gigs, local events like carnivals, pub nights, quiz nights, and relevant at the moment, an Easter fair with egg hunt and a load of other stuff going on and then pub later. Some of them have been friends for ages and do things like DVD nights and country walks. Newbies are always really, really welcomed. They are a lovely lot.

daddyspence Thu 28-Mar-13 12:33:47

lubey that sounds just like the thing i will be looking for. I take it they are nationwide?

StellaBrillante Thu 28-Mar-13 12:36:14

Selfish me is back… selfish because I seem to make very little contribution to the thread but bombard you kind people with questions! Sorry, really!
After a number of long and very warm text messages on Friday / Saturday when I was feeling poorly and then an update on their fixture result on Sunday, I didn’t get a reply to my last text (sent on Sunday) until yesterday. A nice update on being busy, how I was, some reference to my last message and a ‘looking forward to seeing you on Friday’. I replied yesterday evening with what I thought was a warm response, saying that I was also looking forward to it and asking if there’s anything in particular he’d like to do (date has been set for two weeks now but no plan). Silence again… Apart from the last time when he asked us to rearrange our date for tomorrow, he’s been true to his word – he says he’s going to give me an update on their result and he does it; he says he’s going to put tickets aside for me and sure enough, he does it; he says he’s going to give us tickets for premiership game and he goes out of his way to personally deliver them (he lives in another town). So on that basis, I should just take it that he’s very busy or trying to play it cool after perhaps being a bit too ‘loving’ on his previous messages and that we are going to go out tomorrow evening. Surely, if you were going to cancel it, you would either not mention it or start making excuses by now, wouldn’t you? Or at the very least, not be all forthcoming with your choice of words (not in a sexual way btw), no? Also, before he only plucked up the courage to ask me out after having consulted a friend of mine to find out what she thought my reaction is going to be – somebody fearing rejection?
I am starting to think that I am being insecure and creating anxiety over nothing?!?!

daddyspence Thu 28-Mar-13 12:51:52

if ive read that correct he is still talking about getting you tickets then i would hope hes just been a bit busy and for you not to worry. I will keep my fingers crossed for you

Movingforward123 Thu 28-Mar-13 12:57:26

I've never heard of meeting.com is it for meeting new friends instead of dating?

Who goes to these types of things? I really feel I need to meet new people an make new friends, but I feel abit cringy about it for some reason!

Spence Meetup is great, they are nationwide and there is something for everyone. Outdoors stuff, pubs, gigs, arty stuff, guided city walks, everything. I made a new female friend who lives close by, we now meet up for the occasional coffee break. Check out the website.

daddyspence Thu 28-Mar-13 13:05:38

i will have a look over the weekend. Moving forward i think the poster has answered your question there. I know i will need to meet some new people in a relaxed manor before trying dating again. i know what you mean about cringey though

Scrazy Thu 28-Mar-13 13:08:40

I too live out in the sticks in the northwest so no meetup.com here.

OWW whereabouts are you? PM if you want.

Daddy, you are young, 30 is nothing and lots of women who go out hoping to meet someone would be delighted to meet a 30 year old. Once you have had time to adjust, of course. I really wouldn't bother with dating sites until you have tried other ways. Getting out socialising without the intention of meeting anyone would be a start.

MirandaWest Thu 28-Mar-13 13:15:51

daddyspence I live in Yorkshire now - was born in Yorkshire and then grew up in Liverpool. Have never had a northern accent sad Children seem unlikely to get one either (they sound like me).

Mr Nice is from Essex but has lived up here half his life. He has a hybrid accent grin

daddyspence Thu 28-Mar-13 13:28:51

well without giving too much away im in yorkshire.

Thats sad about having no accent though sad

lubeybooby Thu 28-Mar-13 13:33:22

daddyspence yes there are all sorts of different groups for each area. My fave one for example is called the Leicester social, but there are loads more for leicester and the midlands. I haven't checked out other areas but would have thought they would all have similar things.

OhWesternWind Thu 28-Mar-13 13:33:34

Scrazy can't seem to pm from my phone for some reason but will do when I get on the computer, probably tomorrow. I wonder if we're neighbours?

daddyspence Thu 28-Mar-13 13:38:26

thanks lubey thats good to know, i will have a look in the yorkshire area for something. Ive been invited on a works night out tomorrow night so that should do me good getting out with people.

Scrazy Thu 28-Mar-13 13:42:49

OWW, I'll pm you.

JoylessFucker Thu 28-Mar-13 15:35:47

Hello lovely thread <waves>

I have been absent for too long, but so much has been going on in my world that I struggled to keep up with reading. But I have been delighted to see the good stuff (Nameless for Snape <huge sigh>, 48 & MrR&R still together despite all the dumping and awful life stress <this one makes me smile sooooo much, I want a MrR&R myself>, fabulous work review for Velvet and the news that the C is still there and still has potential for much loveliness, Miranda's Mr Nice being back) and sad to see the less positive (LM turning out to be a cowardly toe-rag being the prime example, although the good stuff is see OWW rising like a Phoenix from the ashes - wonderfully inspiring stuff).

Not much time in my life for dating, in fact I am currently on no dating sites whatsoever. I still have my little stable of FWBs, with a couple of lurkers coming out of the woodwork in the last week(ish).

I went for my weekend to Devon to meet Harry and I think we'll be great mates. He's quite lovely, but also very affected by the breakup of his previous relationship (my red flag) and he is really looking for a country girl (which I am not). However, he is a sweetie and I am very happy to be his friend and support whilst he navigates the world of dating and he appears to be happy to provide me with a relaxed bolt-hole in rural Devon. So, I am heading down there for the Easter weekend. Its good timing as things on my course have become very distressing and positively surreal, leading to my withdrawal two-thirds of the way through (I promise you that I'm no quitter). It may lead to formal complaints being made but - for now - I am trying to recover my equilibrium and just take care of myself.

I did meet a guy on Reading station when I last travelled to Devon. Very cute and we got chatting whilst I was having a coffee. I never thought he was being anything other than friendly until he asked for my phone number. I gave it, somewhat in shock, expecting all the old dears in the coffee shop to mutter darkly ... instead of which they said "oh what a lovely young man". Well, he turned out to be rather too keen. What many of you have said on this thread, trying to run before we've even started to walk, telling people about "us" (WTF) and planning weekend getaways before we've even had one date. He also really annoyed me by continually going on about my getting anti-biotics (I've been suffering from that lousy coughing virus for weeks now). No matter how many times I told him "its a virus so antibiotics won't work" he just kept on. Even when I said that I'd been to the doctors who'd confirmed this ... He didn't understand that my problem was that he wasn't listening to me. I cannot bear it when someone doesn't pay attention to what I say, especially when I've repeated myself <grumpy old woman emoticon>. So, cute or not, we didn't get off the starting line and he still keeps trying to ring me.

The sofa looks dead comfy at the mo ...

Someone was asking about FWBs and exclusivity. In my view, if someone requires that type of arrangement to be exclusive, its not that type of arrangement. The whole point of being an FWB is that there is no relationship and therefore - in my mind - no exclusivity requirement. I've had an FWB that just happened to be exclusive, but its all too easy to start thinking of them the wrong way (in other words - romantically).

Hello new posters, old posters and lurkers ... hope life calms down and allows me to participate better. Oh ... I'll send some of these envy envy envy to WFF ...

TigsytheTiger Thu 28-Mar-13 15:36:09

I've got a London accent, can get more sarf London depending who I am talking to, but Mr EA is true Yorkshire and his accent makes me laugh, I can't understand him on the phone and I love the way he says summat!!

he is definitely one of life's good'un s! (smile)

JoylessFucker Thu 28-Mar-13 15:57:33

Ah yes, yours is another one that makes me smile and I love the new name

JoylessFucker Thu 28-Mar-13 16:00:39

On the subject of accents, mine is I think what used to be called RP (or BBC English) as I went to a private school (my parents lived overseas, so no poshness involved). My LTR-ex was from Yorkshire but spent most of his childhood in Essex so was more Estuary than Northern. I like an accent ...

WarmFuzzyFun Thu 28-Mar-13 16:05:09

I have a Southern accent. Kind of a poor person's received pronunciation. Dull. I love accents, even if I struggle to understand what is being said.

A boyfriend a while back had a lovely German accent very sexy blush

Miranda I think you might need some of envyenvy back

OWW I hope tonight is fun, and that LM does turn up at the pub, it would be great for him to see you looking fabulous and that you are moving on.

I am still tired, perhaps I shouldn't stay up all night doing naughty things, still have the hoovering and tidying up to do...and I think last night has set of my appetite for filth and general debauchery. Will have to eat my frustration away!

Lubey, please send any spares to me grin, <greedy emoticon>

I am a member of meetup.com, camping is my thing, although not much has happened this year due to the weather (WFF shakes fist at the sky) and I have a double sleeping bag, you never know people...wink

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