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The OW contacting me

(54 Posts)
ProphetOfDoom Mon 25-Mar-13 21:49:41

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fackinell Tue 26-Mar-13 11:36:43

Like others say, I bet she was snooping and hit add friend by accident. My exes wife did this and I just deleted it assuming it was an accident.

snuffaluffagus Tue 26-Mar-13 11:58:39

Make sure your pictures are set to private and your wall is set to private.. and change your settings as to who can contact you. Even if you block her she could easily set up another profile to have a nose if your profile is open.

MadAboutHotChoc Tue 26-Mar-13 12:04:01

Your wall etc should be set to Friends Only...not Friends of Friends.

ProphetOfDoom Tue 26-Mar-13 14:57:19

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Ahhhcrap Tue 26-Mar-13 16:21:17

Don't beat yourself up about feeling wobbly following this incident, it's only natural.

I had a bit if a wobble 4 yrs after I split from my exH when I found out he was re marrying shock There's no way I'd ever go back but it still made me feel a bit odd.

EggyFucker Tue 26-Mar-13 17:06:45

Oh dear, that was a very expensive shag he had with this wonderful specimen of womanhood, wasn't it ?

I hope his kids inherit what he won't

What a shame

onefewernow Tue 26-Mar-13 17:15:08

I know someone else whose EXH actually did move in the OW, after age fled for a week following his violence upon discovery of the affair.

She actually reprinted the bed and bathrooms before they were ejected.

Totally delusional and also indicating a desire to just take over someone else's (imagined) rosy life.

I agree ignore; she sounds like trouble, in any case.

onefewernow Tue 26-Mar-13 17:15:39

She, not age

onefewernow Tue 26-Mar-13 17:16:29

Repainted!! Lordy, bloody iPhones.

ProphetOfDoom Tue 26-Mar-13 20:37:07

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EggyFucker Tue 26-Mar-13 20:48:51

HahahahaFuckingHa

What a stupid twat !

ilikecooking Wed 27-Mar-13 22:21:54

Sounds like she's wanting approval from you that what she did was acceptable. Your accepting her request would give her the 'ok' and she would think you've accepted her past actions.

Tryharder Wed 27-Mar-13 22:45:25

I would be FB friends with someone who potentially would be looking after my DCs and I would do my best to have a cordial relationship with that person.

You don't have to accept the FB friend request if that's not your bag but if she's trying to extend the olive branch, then I would consider accepting. Water under the bridge and all that.

ProphetOfDoom Fri 05-Apr-13 17:13:22

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If we saw that in a movie we would say that nothing like that happens irl. But it clearly does then!

ProphetOfDoom Fri 05-Apr-13 17:41:33

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mutantninjamyrtle Fri 05-Apr-13 18:11:14

Ah, so she's snooping on you, just as he's trying to worm his way back in with you... suddenly it all becomes clear. Time to sit back with a brew and watch their magical romance turn to shite, I think.

ProphetOfDoom Fri 05-Apr-13 20:35:20

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skyebluesapphire Sat 06-Apr-13 01:27:47

how bizarre?! I wonder what is going on with them. maybe her iphone sent you a friend request all on its own grin

It is sad that he is still lying to you and thins that he can win you over at the same time

ProphetOfDoom Sat 06-Apr-13 08:51:14

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ProphetOfDoom Sat 06-Apr-13 09:01:30

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middleeasternpromise Sat 06-Apr-13 09:26:52

When my marriage was breaking down due to OH's affair, one of his heart to hearts with me involved him telling me we shouldnt have got married because he loved me like a friend! (nice) being his 'friend' he wanted to share with me what a lovely relationship he had with OW so told me about the conversations he had with her about me. People say you shouldnt ask this stuff and they are right its a killer but it gave me a great insight into how cheaters work, deceiving themselves first and then seeking to deceive everybody else. You would have thought she was trying to help him with his marriage to me with why dont you have a baby with your wife maybe that will help your relationship get stronger - strange conversation to have with someone you are shagging.

Had they stayed together there is no doubt in my mind she would have been trying to tell me there was no reason we couldnt be friends and no doubt sending me ruddy FB friend requests. These people are bonkers.

As for my now exH I have to walk a very boundaried line of polite but remote. Once in my orbit he seems to forget the last 7 years, wanders round the house like hes 'home' and thinks he can engage with me like the wife/friend he had years ago, its bizarre and somewhat unnerving. So take heart you are not alone in the weirdness, just know what you want and what you are doing and you wont go far wrong.

Mosman Sat 06-Apr-13 10:32:58

I don't know if you shouldn't know or ask about this stuff, every time I look at exH's pathetic little face in tears I remember the text he sent her telling her loved her.
That keeps the anger real and my resolve when the twat in me could hug him at times.

WafflyVersatile Sat 06-Apr-13 15:37:50

Do you have a very public profile. Ive never heard of followers for normal profiles.

ashamedgay Sat 06-Apr-13 16:36:13

i had friend requests from the gf of the guy i had an affair with, facebook, msn, skype found it very bizarre and strange, bit bunny boiler stalker she turned out to be

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