Not sure whether this is the right place for this one but it is about work relationships.
A new guy started in my office a few weeks ago. He's in his 50s and has been working in a European branch for many years.
I returned from a week's training course on Friday afternoon and was quite surprised to be greeted with a kiss on the cheek by someone I'd only spoken to twice previously. In a work context I would often kiss French or Belgian etc..male contacts that I know well but Brits don't generally kiss hello or goodbye like this. It made me feel uncomfortable.
We then needed to discuss some outstanding work for his team which is very overstretched. He showed me a draft Board paper which was shockingly unfit for purpose and I said I would rework it that evening on the train. (It crossed into my area and I couldn't bear to be associated with the existing version.) Hearing this he insisted on giving me all his personal contact details incl. home phone and petsonal mobile. When he asked for mine, I told him that my work mobile was on the team contact list.
He tried to phone me on Saturday afternoon but I ignored it.
Alarm bells are starting to go off in my head.But I know it could be all coincidental. He's been living in a country where people greet with kisses. Perhaps he's just very conscientious and was working on this paper himself over the weekend.
He's 20 years older and very slightly senior to me (more management responsibility while my job is strategic advice to the top brass).
I would have answered the phone to any other colleague. No one at work has ever made me feel so uncomfortable.
Luckily, I have no doubt that if he did anything clearly inappropriate that my very senior manager and his director would come down like a ton of bricks. But his general manner is already making my skin crawl.
There are two much younger women in his team that I now feel I should keep a close eye on
Where's the line? And how do I know if I'm overreacting?
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Sexual harassment - where's the line?
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