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Is he load of rubbish?

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number41 Sat 23-Mar-13 12:22:10

I have nambe changed for this, sorry.
I met this bloke about 5 years ago. We hit off straight away, very passionatelly, I liked him a lot, he was chatty friendly and funny. But there where a few things that where very odd. He had lots of money, in cash in his house. And he spent it without thinking it. Of course this at the start of a relationship is fun, went out for dinners, good wines, etc. but as I wanted to get serious I started to ask why he didn't have a bank account, where did the money come from, etc. He told me (after a long persona/family/past history) that from a young age he started being involved in music industry, writing lyrics, and ths is what made him the money, he had a little part time job to "keep him in real life" hmm. Now, of course I searched googled etc. he even told me famous songs he had written. He was nowhere to be seen. One night I was at his and the door bell rang. It was his sister (whom with he had no contact) drunk, shouting at him at telling him it was crazy. I didn't hear much more that that. At the time he was very close to his mum. After a lot of thinking more questions and digs, I just didn't see it clear and I stopped contact.
Until now.
Met him again, we hit off again, the connection and chemistry is quite mind blowing. The story has changed a bit, he says he lost all his money on the crisis he has a full time job and bank accounts like normal people but he doesn't speak to his mum anymore. So we start seing each other again as naively I think he might left the odditty and mad stories behind. But its not the case, he keeps saying that he did all this stuff when young but he hated it, hated "the industry" and the way he was treated to produce money. i have researched again, the songs he says he has written are NOT on his name at all, but another famous songriter mainly. BUT, there is some song lyrics that do make sense with the past he has told me about, but of course he could be completely mental and built a big lie based on what these songs say.
There more this stuff started coming out again, the less I want to see him and now we only send the odd text to each other. But I do miss him.
Sorry this is long and it might be lots of info missing so I didn't dripfeed but I don't want to make the post even longer and messier.
But basically, is he full of bullpoo and a compulsive lier, or is it possible that he did have this weird past and he has wiped himself out from all the media...
Please dont be too harsh, I am not naive, I really like his personality and I am just hoping he is not barking mad... sad
So what do you think? WWYD??
Thanks for reading.

Pigsmummy Thu 28-Mar-13 21:06:52

Can you afford a few hundred quid to find out? If so a PI would sort this in no time.

Mumsyblouse Thu 28-Mar-13 21:11:27

They'll be drugs at the bottom of this, for sure, I bet he's coked up and his texts make sense to him. Well done for walking away, you need to protect yourself.

number41 Thu 28-Mar-13 21:40:57

For some reason I don't think its drugs, I have been in the "party" environment when younger and this didn't sound/feel like that at all. This is a small community and he has done a great job with his son, lovely lad doing brill at school. I just think he is deluded and mad.

number41 Thu 28-Mar-13 21:45:06

Unfortunatelly I will see him around, but I think he will realise I've just had enough

nkf Thu 28-Mar-13 21:49:51

Crime?
Sponging off someone?
Something really dull so he makes this up.
Probably drugs though. Often accounts for loopy behaviour.

number41 Thu 28-Mar-13 22:05:11

Money laundering...
I just do not care anymore.
Even without the money issues he has become a bit odd since I stepped back.
Not in a bad way, he is trying to be funny and sounds mad.
I am done.

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