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Is this a non starter (sorry, mega long post)

(59 Posts)
AngelNanny Sat 23-Mar-13 00:25:08

Iv been single since I caught my DS's dad with another woman. Iv had the odd fling but nothing that serious. My DS is now 19months.

Very recently I got with a new guy. We dated when I was 13. He has a DS aged 7yrs. He says that he's never stopped thinking of me and that it's like when people reunite with their high school sweethearts. He says I'm the one.

My problem is that he brings up my past a lot. He seems to think that every male iv ever come in contact with that I have some sexual history with, which is not true.

He throws it in my face and makes sly comments which are not nasty but that I find offensive. Iv told him how I feel about it.

Otherwise he is excellent with my DS and I have bonded really well with his DS. He would do anything for me, helps out loads and is very loving and affectionate.

I suppose what I'm asking is, is it too good to be true? Does he have a really low opinion of me or is he just insecure?

Perhaps I'm worrying about nothing. Perhaps I'm paranoid. Perhaps I'm so used to things being or turning shit that that is what I expect. Argh I don't know. I need outside, informed opinions please

sudaname Sun 24-Mar-13 08:09:31

izzyizin brilliant post @ 02:53. and when exactly did you meet my exh? confused

AViewfromtheFridge Sun 24-Mar-13 08:16:51

"Apparently I do because if he asks if anything ever happened between some one that calls or texts etc. I tell the truth because believe me he would be worse if I lied."

This last sentence is really worrying - what do you mean, he would be worse? That sounds like he's already threatening or at least verbally aggressive.

It sounds like what you need at the moment is some time on your own to rebuild your self esteem. Out of interest, how did you get together? Did he track you down and swoop in like a knight in shining armour, declaring his undying love for you and refusing to take no for an answer, by any chance?

AllOverIt Sun 24-Mar-13 08:21:36

Sorry, but I would run for the hills.

dawntigga Sun 24-Mar-13 09:13:42

I've decided on threads like this instead of LTB which op you aren't going to do (although you should), I'm going to say SWTB Stay With The Bastard as you aren't going to take any advice really anyway.

SWTBTiggaxx

Toasttoppers Sun 24-Mar-13 09:27:01

If you stay with him I see a miserable life for you and even worse you will teach your child that unhealthy relationships are okay. Put your child first.

He is hugely insecure and immature.

MushroomSoup Sun 24-Mar-13 09:58:12

You have managed all these years without him.

Tell him to come back when he's had enough counselling to know how to treat a grown woman in an adult relationship.

AngelNanny Sun 24-Mar-13 10:43:23

I think I will do what Mushroom says.

Thanks for all your help.

SirBoobAlot Sun 24-Mar-13 11:05:31

This guy is being a controlling prick and you want to play a game with him by setting him a challenge for how long he can not question you each time you speak to someone?

Wake up, and run away.

Anniegetyourgun Sun 24-Mar-13 11:10:31

Good advice from Mushroom, good decision. (But don't hold your breath.)

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