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How long were you together before you were engaged?

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Coffee1Sugar Fri 22-Mar-13 17:57:16

Just wondering really! Dp and I have been together 14 months, lived together 4 months (not engaged yet btw!), my sister has just got engaged after 7 weeks so all my family a bit sceptical.

OneHolyCow Sat 23-Mar-13 15:11:08

3 days.. had to move country so the wedding was a few months later, 9 months. We're now together for 3 years and still happy as pigs in s***. grin

Estherbelle Sat 23-Mar-13 14:50:55

Been together for 20 months, living together for 3 months - no engagement yet, although we've both said we see marriage as part of our future together. Ideally I'd love for to get engaged on our second anniversary. If he doesn't ask me after 3 years, I think I will be a bit miffed!

After about 6 months together, my friend's DP said to her: "I'm going to propose to you next year." 10 years later, she's still waiting! That would seriously piss me off!!

abbyfromoz Sat 23-Mar-13 13:37:57

Proposed after 2. Married after 3. 3 year wedding anniversary coming up early May.

3MenAndMe Sat 23-Mar-13 13:27:06

DH proposed after 6 months,than we got married 4 months later....
Will be 12 years this year since we are together,feels really strange as all feels like yesterday...;)

scrumpkin Sat 23-Mar-13 13:21:17

He told me we would get married on our first date smile

Officially proposed after about a year but had had the ring for 8 months "waiting for the right moment"

Married 6 weeks later.

Have been married 8 years and have 5 children envy

elQuintoConyo Sat 23-Mar-13 13:17:35

Met October1998 (me 23, dh 25)
Engaged March 2009
Married May 2010
DS came along December 2011

So, 15 years together this Autum. Christ on a rubber bike!!

Losingexcessweight Sat 23-Mar-13 13:06:37

I got engaged after being together 4 months, got married exactly one year and 2 days after we first met when I was nearly 6 months pregnant.

Been married 9 months.

shartsi Sat 23-Mar-13 11:33:36

4 months.

Roisin Sat 23-Mar-13 11:27:48

We got engaged after 4 weeks, (though we were best friends for a year before then).
Got married 4 months later.
Twenty years' wedding anniversary this year: so it worked for us.

Startail Sat 23-Mar-13 11:07:08

Six weeks, I think we knew from our first date (which lasted all weekend).
I was 20, he was 23.

We lived together at weekends and married two years later, when we could be in the same city.

That first weekend was 25 years ago last week!
We have two beautiful DDs (15&12) we are still best friends and yes we do fight, pretty nastily at times, but we've had plenary of practice at making up grin

cocolepew Sat 23-Mar-13 11:03:51

3 weeks, married within the year and had our 18th anniversary last week.

OwnedByACockerSpaniel Sat 23-Mar-13 11:03:18

Met in September, were engaged by December and married in June. So in the space of 10months we had done it all grin

Coming up to 2 years now and verry happy.

Toasttoppers Sat 23-Mar-13 10:54:58

6 months, been together 15 years.

DXBMermaid Sat 23-Mar-13 10:53:52

9 years. Met when I was 19.
Married 4 weeks after engagement will be married for 3 years next month with our first child on the way. This summer it will be 12 years since our first kiss and still love my DH very very much.
Am glad we didn't get married when we were that young.

sayithowitis Sat 23-Mar-13 10:49:40

Depends what you mean by 'engaged' I suppose. if you mean when did we decide we would marry at some point, then, six weeks after meeting. If you mean doing the whole 'official' announcing engagement, buying a ring bit, well, we are still waiting to do that. But I guess that having been together for over 35 years and married for over 30 of them, kind of makes engagement somewhat redundant!

M0naLisa Sat 23-Mar-13 10:40:03

Btw I was 20 he was 24. We've been married 7 years this year :-) with three amazing boys.

M0naLisa Sat 23-Mar-13 10:38:44

We became a couple end on nov. he proposed near end of jan. we were married at the end of the ear grin

KelleStar Sat 23-Mar-13 08:48:29

9 years before we got engaged, we got together when I was 15 and DH was 14.

My sisters DH proposed to her after 4 months of dating. She was young but just out of a complicated relationship, he is 18 years older and she was his first girlfriend.

My mum and dad made the biggest fuss until I found out from Gran they'd been engaged after 10 weeks of dating and were married within 6 months of meeting. They were 19 and I arrived 9 months after they married.

ThePlEWhoLovedMe Sat 23-Mar-13 08:43:51

Met in 2001
Planned a pregnancy a month later
Moved in together 7 months later (30 weeks pregnant)
12 years later - not engaged

COCKadoodledooo Sat 23-Mar-13 08:40:01

My mum and dad were a bit surprised/skeptical at the time (and dad still mentions that we interrupted him watching London's Burning when we phoned them with the news!). I do remember mum saying to my Godmum in an exasperated tone "speak to her S!" and my Godmum saying "are you sure?!" And at that point I discovered my Godparents had met precisely 6 weeks before they got married grin I mean, at least I'd known dh 6 weeks or so before our first date!

birdofthenorth Sat 23-Mar-13 08:36:53

3 years after first drunken shag smile I was still only 25 when we got engaged though. Married at 26. That was 5 years and nearly two kids ago (37 weeks pg).

COCKadoodledooo Sat 23-Mar-13 08:34:00

7 weeks. When we told people several were surprised it had taken that long. Tbf, I knew I was going to marry him when we met so they had a point!

That was 16 years ago and we've been married 15 years in June.

FellaNextDoor Sat 23-Mar-13 08:20:41

Met in 1980 Engaged in 1982 Married in 1983 celebrating our 30th on Tuesday this week

SprinkleLiberally Sat 23-Mar-13 08:12:50

5 months. Married 12 months after that. Now married for 14 years. He first mentioned getting married about 3 dates in though which freaked me a bit.

ChestyLeRoux Sat 23-Mar-13 08:05:41

We were engaged at 10 weeks when we were 18. Now been married 10 years.I wouldnt be sceptical at all, and would have no problem if my children did the same.

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