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How long were you together before you were engaged?

(136 Posts)
Coffee1Sugar Fri 22-Mar-13 17:57:16

Just wondering really! Dp and I have been together 14 months, lived together 4 months (not engaged yet btw!), my sister has just got engaged after 7 weeks so all my family a bit sceptical.

We met in the October , started going out together in the November and got engaged in the December of 1993 .
Married the following June .
Now have 2 teenagers , still very happy .
Don't be sceptical , it does work .

Snazzynewyear Fri 22-Mar-13 19:21:16

7 weeks is a bit quick. Clearly that can and does work out for some people but I would want six months to a year to really see the person in depth before marrying them.

lovintheolives Fri 22-Mar-13 19:21:20

engaged after 3 years, married a year later. Been married for 7years now and all good. I think it's important to really get to know one-another before hand. Afterall, if you know they're the one, what's the rush? x wink

hotair Fri 22-Mar-13 19:21:23

4 weeks officially, but we went ring shopping after 21 days! We got married 6 months later and have been married 4 years so far. Best decision I ever made!

rubyrubyruby Fri 22-Mar-13 19:21:54

15 years

MooMooSkit Fri 22-Mar-13 19:23:59

2 years. Hope to get engaged next year smile

chubbachops Fri 22-Mar-13 19:24:28

Been together 8 years we are not engaged at the min, but my dad has told me DP asked for my dad's permission last weekend to marry me, I'm not supposed to know ;-)

MrsHoarder Fri 22-Mar-13 19:25:12

3 years. But we were young and a lot of that was long distance. Call me old fashioned, but I didn't want to commit to living together before we started making wedding plans.

Got married after 18 months of engagement, 6 months of living together.

soaccidentprone Fri 22-Mar-13 19:26:42

about 8 weeks. bit of a problem in that I was still married to someone elsesad we've been together now 13 years and married for 10.

QuickLookBusy Fri 22-Mar-13 19:28:42

9 weeks! I was 22, DH 23.

We then married 5 months later. Obviously a few people were shocked, although all my friends and family liked him very much, they just thought we were in too much of a rush.
We were madly in love and couldn't see any point in waiting.

We are just about to celebrate our 24th wedding anniversary and I love him very much. Looking back I think we are lucky, one of us could have been a complete twat and we wouldn't have known after 9 weeks.

beginnings Fri 22-Mar-13 19:29:48

2.5 years. Got married the day before the third anniversary of him asking me out!

Goober Fri 22-Mar-13 19:31:58

He proposed after 1 day.
We were married 8 weeks later.
I shit you not. grin

This year we enter our 20th year of blissfully happy marriage and we are renewing our vows.

zoyt Fri 22-Mar-13 19:33:00

15 years, was a joke between our long time friends... Lived together after 2 years. Talked about getting married during those 15 years but were enjoying life. Guess we knew we were going to stay together always.

ginmakesitallok Fri 22-Mar-13 19:35:03

2 months - we'll be together 20 years next year and still not married....

QuickLookBusy Fri 22-Mar-13 19:35:53

Goober, that must be a record!

ubik Fri 22-Mar-13 19:37:10

Hmmm

20 years

KLou111 Fri 22-Mar-13 19:38:47

8 years, 2 months and 23 days smile
Married day after our 10th anniversary, our anniversary was a Friday hence day after. That was 5.5 years ago, love my hubs smile

KLou111 Fri 22-Mar-13 19:40:44

I was 17 when we got together, him 23 ( known each other since I was 3 - brothers friend). Didn't see each other for 10 years as we moved away, bumped into each other on a night out and the rest is history.......

sydlexic Fri 22-Mar-13 19:43:35

3 weeks, now been together 35 years.

TeacupTempest Fri 22-Mar-13 19:47:38

DH proposed after about 6 weeks but it wasn't official until he got down on one knee with a ring after 10 1/2 years! Been together 14 years now but only married for 2 1/2.

lookingforbaubles Fri 22-Mar-13 19:49:42

engaged after 5 days, married 3 weeks later

lasted 10 years and 3 dc

it was very romantic and gin was involved

pebbles1234 Fri 22-Mar-13 19:52:11

Engaged after 6 months, married 18 months later. Married six years now and expecting 2nd dc. Happiest years of my life smile

SarahBumBarer Fri 22-Mar-13 19:55:36

3 months. At gunpoint (practically) God bless UK Borders Agency grin

apatchylass Fri 22-Mar-13 19:55:38

Like Pebbles, engaged after six months then married a year later. Together now for 19 years!

SomeBear Fri 22-Mar-13 19:56:52

Still waiting for an engagement ring, but marriage was discussed within the first couple of weeks, unofficially engaged after 3 months and married after 7 months (whilst 22 wks pg). That was 13 years ago, very much together despite the doubts cast by half of those who came to our wedding!

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