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Orgasm (Hers)

(38 Posts)
alwayslookingup Fri 22-Mar-13 13:01:14

Hi all,

new to this site and a first time poster (but really enjoying what I've read so far, very honest and refreshing).

Anyway, to topic. I'm 52 and separated for almost three years. I've had a girlfriend of the same age for most of my separation (I never played away when married). Our lovelife is great, very passionate and spontaneous and I really enjoy being intimate with her. I love just lying in bed with her, holding her, talking to her.

However, though she has an orgasm fairly easily during lovemaking (by tongue, fingers, intercourse), SHE ONLY EVER HAS ONE. She says she's quite happy with this and I guess she must be. However, mixed messages here folks. I'm a simple bloke, and my reading of as much work on the subject as I can tends to suggest the more orgasms a woman can have the better. Or have I got it totally wrong?

So, comments please, does anyone have a view on this? I'll say here that it doesn't particularly worry me, though if I could give her more pleasure I'd love to be able to.

And, apologies if this has been discussed before. I hope it hasn't been a big yawn reading this far.

M.

GinGuzzler Fri 22-Mar-13 14:09:13

Speaking from personal experience here to much in one night results in sore bits.

<<returns to ice pack on cushion and hope OH is reading this --doubt it very much-->>

CornflowerB Fri 22-Mar-13 14:09:43

Maybe you could just stop admiring yourself

alwayslookingup Fri 22-Mar-13 14:11:29

SolidGoldBrass - many apologies, just had a look at some of your other posts.

mcmooncup Fri 22-Mar-13 14:27:16

"love-making" is a v. unmumsnet way of describing sex. And generally creeps us out, just for the record.

quietlysuggests Fri 22-Mar-13 14:27:43

Well look, control freak you may be, but you asked an honest question, got honest answers, and took them in good grace, so I think you could always pop back to MN for other quick questions you need sorting out - you can spare your lady friend that way.
Enjoy your reunion.

alwayslookingup Fri 22-Mar-13 14:31:20

Okay folks, work beckons, and it's in the open air away from computer, so, thanks for all the advice, it's been useful. Feel free to add, I'll see it tomorrow.

TooYappy Fri 22-Mar-13 14:31:48

Oh I thought it was just me freaked out by the 'love-making' comment.

Yes you have your info off you pop now!

Your typing makes you seem like a sleazy male, sorry, have a nice time with your new friend.

<shudder>

NormaSpoonOeufEggcher Fri 22-Mar-13 14:33:15

Wow - if you think Cogito's first response to you was a flaming then I recommed that you stay well away from AIBU

There there, OP. Have a cookie.

GirlWiththeLionHeart Fri 22-Mar-13 17:11:17

I guess I'm lucky in that I can have orgasm after orgasm but don't have a good enough lover to give me them. Can't fucking win.

Op, you do sound considerate. All women are different. As long as she is enjoying herself, try not to worry too much smile

northernirishman Sun 24-Mar-13 15:42:22

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Charliefox Sun 24-Mar-13 15:57:50

Ha, good late input there Irish wotsit! Always pleasing to see a considered, intelligent, well thought out post. Bravo that man! Keep the good work up.

KareninsGirl Sun 24-Mar-13 23:04:43

I would be a bit irked if my new lover waved his cock on the Internet like this. Sorry OP, you creep me out a bit too.

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