Where do I go?!

[Username123]

After a year of dealing with my daughters father and his mother's issues and general control freak behaviour, tonight I received a call saying that they had discussed it and had decidedly that my daughter would be better off living with his mother, they are on the way round and could I have her bags packed.

Well, her bags are packed, as are mine and I am sitting in McDonalds not knowing what the fuck to do or where to go.

I have no living family members and don't want to go to a friends in case he finds me there.

I have £50 to my name until I can get to a bank tomorrow morning.

Obviously there is a shitload of backstory to this, but where can I go right now that would be safe?

I'm in east London in case that's relevant/helpful?

[HollyBerryBush]

bed and breakfast?

travel lodge?

I didn't want to leave this not being bumped

[BubblegumPie]

Women's aid?

[Georgebooboo]

Hello, sorry to hear about what's happening. Go to the nearest police station. They should be able to tell you where the nearest women's hostel is or somewhere you can go for the night until you sort things out and will be safe x

[BubblegumPie]

0808 2000 247

That's the number for women's aid. It says for domestic violence, but I'm assuming you are afraid your DD will be forcibly removed from you? If so I would class that as domestic violence. You could also call the non emergency police number for help

[Username123]

Thought of hotel, but all more then £50 for the night.

Never thought of police funnily enough. Will go there. Thank you.

[Lucyellensmum95]

No advice, just support - i hope you manage to sort something out soon x

[myroomisatip]

Ahh Bless you. Good luck. Come and back and let us know how you are!

[bishboschone]

Bloody hell!! How old is your dd? Yes go to the police . Hope that can help you .

[gloucestergirl]

This sounds like a horrible situation, but can you hide at a friend's place, or a hotel lobbey for a few hours? Are they likely to camp outside your house/flat? Then sleep on it at home and come up with a plan for you and your daughter? If things are really desperate can you re-locate to a different part of the country and start in a hostel in a private room or B and B, both cheap options.

[LowLevelWhinging]

Women's aid is for domestic abuse, so not just violence. Controlling behaviour is abuse. Threatening to take your daughter is abuse.

the police will be able to point you in the right direction.

Good luck op.

[StitchAteMySleep]

Have pm'ed you OP

[DameFanny]

Police are best so they can't report you as missing, or as having kidnapped your dd.

Also do talk to women's aid about getting into a refuge.

Is your ex on the birth certificate? You need to see a solicitor about getting an emergency residence order.

So sorry you're going through this. Stay safe. for you and a for dd.

[Username123]

Thank you, thank you, thank you for all the replies. Am currently sitting in the police station and the police have been WONDERFUL. Truly helpful.

They put me in touch with one of their solicitors, who has arranged an appointment with me for tomorrow but has advised that emergency residency orders can take about a week, so not to let ex have any contact with her until then.

They have also arranged a bed and breakfast for me to go to. Just waiting on a cab to take me there. Ex called me while I was there and the very nice police woman took my phone and informed him that he was not to contact me again and any future correspondence should be done via a solicitor and that if he broke it she would take great pleasure in arresting him for harassment.

Basically, we were together for 3 years and he seemed normal! Then we have DD (who has just turned 1) and suddenly his spine disappeared and his domineering mother showed her true colours. She referred to my daughter as her own, called me 'Aunty'! and convinced her son that everything I did for our daughter was killing her. I was criticised for BF because it meant GM couldn't feed 'her' daughter. I was expected to spend Christmas day alone while DD went to GM's with her dad as Christmas is 'family' time and I have no family. The fact that I am her fucking mother, is obviously just a mere detail.

I ran like hell and split up with my partner, which freaked out GM even more as she had even less control. Hence this apparent 'discussion' tonight.

But thank you. Seriously, as stupid as it sounds I never thought of going to the police station and they have been complete angels tonight.

Thank you.

[FayeKorgasm]

Take care. You are so brave.

[Xales]

Wow!

For all the bad stories about the police out there they have been brilliant for you tonight.

Good luck!

[kinkyfuckery]

You've made a very brave move tonight. Let us know how things go with the solicitor tomorrow.

[Sugarice]

I really hope you and your daughter are ok.

Take lots of care and thinking of you tonight.

[Sunshinewithshowers]

Take Care both of you xxxx

[BubblegumPie]

I'm so pleased you've sorted it, well done!

[beachyhead]

Sleep well and congratulations on being so brave

[Wonderland121]

So glad to read you have somewhere safe to now go with your DD,
Stay warm & take care.

[Username123]

Thank you all for your kind words. I have to admit I do not feel brave. I feel fucking terrified.

But tomorrow I'm going to the bank to withdraw money from my savings, have an appointment with the solicitor and on Monday will call woman's Aid/ Local Council in regards to more permanent accommodation.

But for now, DD is snuggled up fast asleep and no one is taking her anywhere, so I'm doing alright.

[Lucyellensmum95]

Username123, you are an inspiration - the very best of luck to you and your DD, she is lucky to have you xxx

[curiousgeorgie]

I wish I had something helpful to add, but can only say good luck and cuddle your daughter tight, she's so lucky to have you x

[OhDearieDearieMe]

Blimey. What a situation. Utmost respect to you for holding it together and keeping both of you safe. Good luck and God bless.