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Starting a thread on good relationships.....

(39 Posts)
PureedGoodness Fri 15-Mar-13 11:33:41

Read so many bad relationships and problems so just wondered if anyone wanted to share any nice experiences with their OH. What is the nicest thing your OH has done for you.

Naysa Fri 15-Mar-13 15:10:18

I've been feeling really down recently and it's getting worse. DP loves his sleep and doesn't do well without.

It was about 3 in the morning and he was asleep because he had to be up early the next day. I started crying because I was feeling so low and he got up, got me some tissues and water and just cuddled me while I cried.

I know how much he loves his sleep and it was so lovely that he stayed awake with me, looking after me, and just let me cry.

browniebear Fri 15-Mar-13 16:49:24

Going to watch this thread with interest. Will be nice to hear some good things about being in a relationship as I'm starting to think being single is the only way for me.

roofio87 Fri 15-Mar-13 18:00:28

my dp came home with flowers and a card the week before valentines day saying it was 'girlfriend appreciation day'. was so sweet and much better than on the 14th when you're expecting it!!smile

MooMooSkit Fri 15-Mar-13 18:04:28

The other week we was out shopping and I saw a top i really liked, without saying anything my OH just picked it up and bought it for me.

Couple of weeks ago I finished my shift at work at 6, mentioned being tired earlier in the day, when i got home he'd run me a bath, laid out candles and cooked a roast for me.

There's pros and cons to being single and being in a relationship.

crazypaving Fri 15-Mar-13 18:12:03

dh never rises to my bait when I snap at him blush thank goodness one of us is able to be an adult.

he gets up at 5am every day to take the baby and give me extra sleep

in the early weeks he slept in the room with the baby while I slept in the spare room, coming to get me for feeds, so I could sleep properly and recover. we were both afraid of my pnd recurring.

he is truly amazing smile

Growlithe Fri 15-Mar-13 18:20:08

I've had a cup of tea made for me in bed every morning since I came home from the hospital with DD1 who is now 9.

whatwoulddexterdo Fri 15-Mar-13 18:26:46

My dh makes me a cup of tea every single morning for me to drink before I get up.
Also he always waits up for me if i go out, no matter what time i get in to make sure I got home ok.
He also let's me watch back to back episodes of dexter without complaint.

Gosh I sound really spoilt!!

browniebear Fri 15-Mar-13 18:29:59

Ok now I'm being convinced.
Had a bit of a dexterthon myself today and would like someone to watch it with

PureedGoodness Fri 15-Mar-13 22:21:31

Its so nice to hear of some positive relationship experiences rather than the troubled ones which are posted on here. There are some decent men out there!

lemonstartree Fri 15-Mar-13 22:31:48

my partner LISTENS to me and respects me. He takes care of me and supports me and my children emotionally and practically. He loves us, and has brought stability and security to my family.

randomtask Fri 15-Mar-13 22:42:33

My DH looks after me & our DC whilst being calm & worries more about me than himself.

When I am breastfeeding he gets up when the baby is crying, changes the baby then wakes me so I can feed them, then gets up to put them back (thus meaning I don't get up). He also has been known to get up early to do the left over washing up so I don't get depressed by it. He once bought me tickets to a gig for Valentines knowing it meant he had to spend the evening with his wife drooling over another man.

Oh & I knew I should marry him when I was very stressed & tearful about something so he went & explained to my parents so I didn't have to.

Have never regretted being with him (together 6 years) but had lots of not so good boyfriends before. It's all about the right man!!

ChestyLeRoux Sat 16-Mar-13 07:23:46

Dh gave up everything to be with me within the first month of knowing me as we knew we would be together forever. We are soul mates, and have lived in one room in uk, lived abroad in one room, and it never annoyed us as we get on so well. We eloped and married each other, and used to write each other daily love letters. He was only a teenager when we wed, but even then we knew we were meant to be.

He cares for me, looks after me and cares for our children. He is a brilliant dad and husband. He brightens up every day and hes hardworking, good looking, my best friend and we had an instant connection.

BettyBlueBlue Sat 16-Mar-13 07:33:59

Staying with me, firm on the ground, after all the ups and downs of life. Illness, children, dysfunctional family backgrounds, in laws, day to day maddening life.

My DH is definitely not a "gesture" person, but I know for sure he's there for me, and my children. He always buys me cards and presents for important occasions, though.

He hasn't got a big romantic heart, but he's solid as gold.

PureedGoodness Sat 16-Mar-13 07:41:44

My dp was brilliant when i was in hospital after having an emergency section. He usually is quite laid back and doesnt like bothering anyone but i really felt loved and cared for by him when he was questionning the nurses about whether i needed to still have my cannula in (once i was off the fluids), ensuring i got my pain killers on time, asking for help with me when i developed an epidural headache. Basically being my advocate! Every day i was in hospital (tho i was up and down within day 1 post op) he would go and get me my coffee and juice from the ward's kitchen/dining room. The funniest and cutest one was when i had asked for some toast about 6pm as i had missed my evening meal due to having a procedure for my epidural headaches hence having to be led flat for a few hours post procedure so could not eat my meal. Because this promised toast didnt surface every nurse that came in he hassled them for my toast. He also went to the nurses station to remind them that i had not got my toast yet. Even when i said it didnt matter now to him he insisted i needed to eat. Sounds trivial but my dp isnt one for hassling anyone especially busy nurses on a busy ward. He hates putting anyone out so that made me feel so cared for him that it was important to him i had this toast! Eventually got it by about 8pm!!

My husband is generally a good 'un. He works bloody hard in a very stressful job and is often home late or away on business, but I know he will be here at the drop of a hat if I need him.

From November until the past week or so I have had a horrendous back problem and could barely walk some days. He cooked Christmas dinner, did laundry and looked after us all while I was bed bound = and didnt complain, or whinge or hummf.

He brings me coffee/water/food without having to be asked and even after being together 18 years he can still make me laugh on a regular basis.

We have trust, respect and love. We listen to each other and he generally doesnt react when I am a grumpy/sore beatch. wink

ChelseaKnows1 Sat 16-Mar-13 07:50:54

I'm pleased my dp is the rational one. I have terrible anxiety and he is always so reasuring and supportive. I keep thinking he will get annoyed and snap for being irrational about some things but he never does smile he always helps me see the positives and is very laid back which is very refreshing.

TotallyBursar Sat 16-Mar-13 07:51:52

If we both need to go he always lets me poo first. And I can make it a leisurely one. Seriously, you have no idea how much going to the loo without an audience means to me.

There's loads of other stuff, but it's all like that. Not loud or obnoxious 'look at this brilliant thing I am doing, Loook at meee, you're not loooking' just a hundred thousand thoughtful little things. He is perfect to me even when he is being a spoonyfucker.
He's...all the things, all of them that matter anyway.

PureedGoodness Sat 16-Mar-13 08:01:31

He also planned a secret trip away for us (whilst i was still pregnant) on a "babymoon" to a lovely spa hotel in Deganwy, Wales which included a massage, a tray of home made truffle chocolates delivered to the room in a gorgeous penthouse suite with a fantastic view over the beach. Whilst there he proposed to me which was just fantastic!! He is a great romantic. I am very lucky to have him. Sometimes i feel i dont deserve him.

Kione Sat 16-Mar-13 08:06:55

If I go on a night out my DP gets up with DD gets her ready and they go to see his mum so I can have undisturbed lie in.
He also cooks most nights as we both work full time and I pick DD up from nursery.
He has started cooking recipes from my country smile
I am loving this thread as we where going through a rough patch

MrsWolowitz Sat 16-Mar-13 08:12:13

DH gets up more than his fair share and let's me have lie-ins. (I loathe mornings so I really appreciate it)!

Also yesterday I came in from work and was really, really stressed out (horrid day) so he ran me a bath and let me slob in the tub while he got the kids ready for bed.

I quite like that bloke.

DragonMamma Sat 16-Mar-13 08:33:56

My Dh makes me tea every morning or if he leaves before I'm up he puts it all out ready for me.

I need more sleep than him so I get the lie ins usually (like today!). He never moans when our youngest dc is being a little shite and takes both out for a few hours just to give me some space from being a mum.

He always waits up for me wheh I'm working which means he often doesn't get to sleep until 1 and then is up before 6 for work.

Oh and he tells me every day how much he loves me and fancies me.

He's bloody brilliant and moved to the other side of the UK to be with me and has never ever moaned about leaving all his friends and family behind.

Think he'll be getting laid tonight after writing all this.

marshkat Sat 16-Mar-13 09:09:16

My OH is amazing too! We have had a bad couple of years regarding family problems, and i suffer from bad stress and anxiety he has been my rock throughout, so supportive of me and everything in our relationship is shared, no one does everything! I love him so much and i know he loves me too!

Beckamaw Sat 16-Mar-13 23:38:23

I was diagnosed with a probable brain tumour and sent for an urgent MRI, which I was quite worried about.
He came along and insisted on coming in to hold my hand.
They told him no metallic objects were allowed in the room, so he ripped the zips off a new, and rather expensive pair of trousers, and came in. It was a bit breezy on the way home!!grin

I didn't have a brain tumour. In fact, they never got to the bottom of my weird symptoms, as I fell pregnant 2 months later.

There are so many examples, but most are too involved to type quickly.

He does send me random flowers if I am stressed or unhappy.

He's an amazing Daddy too.

HollyBerryBush Sat 16-Mar-13 23:44:35

He's my equal in every way, or am I his? no matter!

He never leaves for work without kissing me goodbye, he never comes in without kissing me hello.

How he juggled my mothers sudden death with me having an emergency C-section, my father being post op, then his own fathers death the following day is beyond me ((DH))

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