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Dating thread no 45

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Online and real life dating chat, all welcome

StellaBrillante Sat 09-Mar-13 12:08:48

Hi OWW and Julie - thank you for your responses!
The tickets for the match are only for me and ds, he gets free tickets and he knows we go to games quite often so he offered to get them. The local match is his team and he also left 2 tickets at the door for me last Sunday so I took a friend with me. I've gone back to him about timing for tomorrow and he's sent a really nice response...all very confusing! Surely, getting the cinema sorted would have been much more straight foward. Men, huh?!
Hope you all have a lovely Saturday and thank you once again!!!

OhWesternWind Sat 09-Mar-13 12:21:01

Sorry Stella I meant the cinema tickets! Too many tickets floating around, very confusing. If you're still not sure what the arrangements are for the cinema then just text again or even better call if you're happy using the phone.

Texting is easier in a way as it's kind of indirect and you're not under pressure, but blimey does it lead to confusion and angst. Not just you Stella, it happens to us all!

Been to see LM in his shop and dropped off his card and bottle. Stayed about two minutes literally as I didn't want to get in his way, but I think he was pleased.

Dd being a foul pre-teen hormonal nightmare today and refusing to have breakfast, get dressed or change her bedding. Fed up with battles over everything and if being spoken to like a piece of muck.

Snapespeare Sat 09-Mar-13 12:21:18

He's not my boyfriend juliette hmm he's so totally my boyfriend grin

Just plumbed in my freecycle dishwasher. Need to take it out and muck about with the legs as it's a bit wobbly, but successful day so far. Dishwasher works. Everything is awesome. Tralalalala.

oww hoping things go well for LM today,..it's one of those funny Internet things, I don't really know any of you, but you're my other-world friends, so I feel like I almost know the people you know IYSWIM... smile

Stella ah, he gets free tickets in that case very kind of him to arrange some for you and DS, I thought you might have an odd one there for a minute. Have a great date tomorrow smile.

MirandaWest Sat 09-Mar-13 12:24:12

Yay for dishwasher smile

Children enjoyed climbing. DDs boyfriend wasn't there. We are now going around morrisons. Slowly hmm

Snape you'll be practising your new signature on your pencil case next grin

Snapespeare Sat 09-Mar-13 12:35:12

Oh no, I wouldn't change my name on marriage. Well. I might change it to gallifrey-time-lord (have been threatening to change my middle name to gallifrey for yonks...) but only if he changes his as well and seeing as he <whispers> doesn't watch doctor who shock that's unlikely.

Oh wait. I don't believe in marriage, do I?! blush

Scrazy Sat 09-Mar-13 12:44:50

Snape, you've given me an idea now. I've got a slimline dishwasher that hasn't worked for years. One day I will get a new kitchen but this one functions apart from the dishwasher. Might have a look on freecycle as all the plumbing is there.

Ah, dishwashers. When my ex and I split I bought the second property I saw because it just felt right. The woman who owned it had already moved out but there were still a few bits and pieces in the flat. My offer was accepted (much shock) and the agent said "the vendor says you can keep the white goods if you like". Great, thought I, fridge freezer and washing machine, two less things to buy.

Got the keys. And there, which I hadn't noticed on viewing as I was too busy looking at potential and redecorating, was a slimine Bosch dishwasher. Three months old. Now, I thought, single guy, on my own, not really fussed. I might get shot of that...

Would never, ever, ever be without a dishwasher again.

VelvetSpoon Sat 09-Mar-13 13:28:35

I chucked my dishwasher away years ago as I never used it! I enjoy washing up and make a much better job of it than the dishwasher used to.

Lubey enjoy the rest of the journey to Scotland, hope you have a great few days!

I'm off to Essex in a bit for a much needed night out, my going out essentials of false eyelashes, high heels and fake tan all packed! Can't wait to see my lovely friends smile

mercury7 Sat 09-Mar-13 13:32:47

when I bought my place the owners unexpectedly left me:
dishwasher
washing machine
fridge
freezer
combi microwave

saved me loads of money because I Had none of those itemsgrin

MirandaWest Sat 09-Mar-13 13:41:19

I would like to own a house. XH and I did but between us made a mess of all stuff financial and when we moved up here knew we wouldn't be able to own again. This house has fridge freezer, washing machine and dishwasher though smile

I changed my surname when I got married. I prefer this one tbh. Not sure what would happen if I were to get married again (I possibly have a slight daydream about such things blush) as it seems fine keeping a name I got from someone else while not in a married position but would seem strange if I were married to someone else. Unless I made him change to my name of course grin

janflan Sat 09-Mar-13 13:44:58

Can i join in again please. I've got myself aproper profile on Pof with photos and everything and I've had loads more messages than before.

I've been talking to afew people on there but there's two i can't choose between to go on a date with. I think I'll have to date both and see.

Ok number 1 i have the most spark with and will read his messages first. But he was rude to me twice for not responding to his messages quickly enough. I told him he was out of order and he apologized but i think he has potential to be demanding and clingy. He lives with his parents after his divorce. I fancy him though and he makes of laugh and we have great banter.

Number 2 is so sweet, really really nice. Not a massive spark but i do like talking tohim. He's a carer for his mum so doesn't work but is domesticated. I've got the feeling he'd treat me really well but he could be too nice.

Obviously they might both take one look and run but i can't decide.

Jan - personally, if someone who I had never met was rude to me twice for not responding to messages quickly enough, I would not give them a chance to do so for the third time. Even if there is a spark. I'd certainly meet number 2 to find out if he could be too nice.

worley Sat 09-Mar-13 13:57:13

hello everyone.. been months scince I've been on it seems..
But.. I met some one in rl last week (new pub opened, went out with friends, as was he.. and we swapped numbers..) went for a meal this week .. (never done that before - always just a drink so I can go quicker if I need to ;) ) anyway.. he paid :D I offered but he wouldn't let me even lay half.. he's text everyday and says his looking forward to our next evening out (next week)
my only issue is... his ex wife it turns out Is friends with one of my friends friends.. (if your following - I don't even live in same town as them so Is a small world) and the ex wife has made it known that she wasnt happy about it... I've blocked her on fb as I was warmed she might start sending me messgages.. they are confirmed as divorced.. but I just don't want any hassel... I've told him that and he said I won't his ex is fine about it..
has anyone else had issues with an ex wife? I've never had this before.. not met anyone ou in rl since I was a teenager!! lol (mid 30,s now sad )

janflan Sat 09-Mar-13 13:57:34

Thanks that's in the back of my mind with number one.

I think nice is what a need after 8 years with a shit.

worley Sat 09-Mar-13 13:59:42

jan... yep I agree with VoiceOf reason... if they've been rude twice don't give them a chance to do it face to face.. maybe trouble ahead with thy one..
see how number 2 works out.. too nice isn't always such a bad thing is it ?

Worley that's VoiceofUNreason if you don't mind smile. Don't want people thinking I am reasonable or talk sense!! As for the ex wife - friend of a friend of a friend??? I wouldn't give a tinker's cuss what she thought. I agree, no one wants hassle but I'd certainly not bail out of something at the first hurdle if you like the guy.

ike1 Sat 09-Mar-13 14:36:59

DS has had a faux hawk haircut (8) he looks great and loves it has enjoyed spiking it up with a bit of hair mud! Are you sure you cant be tempted with a trip down haircut memory lane Bill???? (We nearly went for a totally 80's flock of seagulls hairdo at one point)...

Scattylatte Sat 09-Mar-13 14:49:28

Hi everyone. snape grin at nameless and dishwasher.
Have a great time lubey
Hope your child is feeling better bill
velvet have a great night

Bloody fireman. tmi alert. So we haven't actually DTD with PIV sex as I was 'on' then he had to wait 2 weeks for his STI check then we didn't stay over for other reasons. So last week finally we could be although all was well to start - performance anxiety set in. Whatever, I thought but I knew he would go into a tail spin and he has. Que him looking up impotence on the net and not going out with his mates last night in case it is the alcohol, talking about Viagra etc. I spoke to him last night and it was the second thing we talked about and I told him that he is putting himself under massive pressure whereas I see it as directly related to anxiety as beforehand he kept worrying if he would live up to my expectations.
So... That's where we are at dear thread.

ike1 Sat 09-Mar-13 15:05:18

Scatty...what's he like??

ike1 Sat 09-Mar-13 15:06:05

That's non rhetorical btw ...

ike1 Sat 09-Mar-13 15:07:17

Yes Billn nevermind about my hair suggestions how's little Billette?

ike - do you have a hair fetish?? Better not look on AIBU, there's a thread about purple pubes....seriously....

lulubellaboozle Sat 09-Mar-13 16:30:04

quick post - thoughts please!

Mr EA's has just announced that it is his Dd's birthday next Sunday, normally a weekend we spend without kids, this isn't a problem at all, I would expect him to see his DD on her birthday. Complication is, it is also his ex's birthday on the same day and he has said he has been asked to take DD and her Mum out for lunch. I am not happy about this, as I feel his ex contacts him a lot about non child related stuff, I can understand him taking his DD out, but surely her Mum doesn't have to join them? She must have her own friends and family to see and celebrate with. I have posted before about how uncomfortable this situation makes me feel.

When he was here on Thursday she phoned him 3 times, all vaguely child related but then proceed to bang on about other stuff. He doesn't initiate the contact or encourage it, but equally he doesn't do much to discourage it or draw some boundaries. I am all for amicable relationships but this just seems odd, is it me? or would anyone else not fancy the idea of their boyfriend taking his ex out for lunch on her birthday even with DD present whose birthday it is to?

I would like some perspective please.

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