How do I go about finding decent ones?
I've recently bought a book about different types of toxic friend, and I can honestly say that every friend I have fits well into one or more of the categories.
My friends do things such as:
Always being too busy to see me despite having plenty of time to see other people. Cancelling plans in favour of other people. Telling me they are ill and then going out with other people
Expect unlimited support from me when they're having a bad time, expecting me to be outraged if anyone crosses them and to 'side' with them. Not giving me any support when I need it, and 'siding' with anyone except me. Recent example is a friend who has been very needy recently and who I've offered a lot of support to. The other day she was round here after school with her DD and my DD said a girl who isn't very pleasant in their class had hit her that day. Friend just sat there and said nothing, yet it if was her daughter that had been hit she would expect me to be outraged.
Behaving like a frenemy; nasty comments, cutting comments, little digs. Talking to me sometimes and not at others.
I probably have 10 friends and like I said they all seem to fit into categories in my book about toxic friends. I can't think that any bring anything to my life, they all just seem to use me.
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Why do I just attract toxic friends?
HerLordship · 06/03/2013 10:03
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