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Is 8 months to soon to know that he is the one?..

(25 Posts)
Sammieh86 Tue 05-Mar-13 11:10:44

fellanextdoor lovely to hear a mans point of view on it too smile thankyou smile somehow when im with him nothing else matters, he says the only time hes truly happy is when hes with me too smile....really want to grow old with this man hes special <3 xx

FellaNextDoor Tue 05-Mar-13 11:08:24

Hi I think you just know. We knew on our first evening that we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. Just clicked somehow.
Anyway been married for 30 years now, we have 2 DDs, DW is my best friend and we love being together (and I still fancy her like crazy).
She has heard all my jokes and I have got lines in places that never existed before but hey.

Sammieh86 Tue 05-Mar-13 11:05:31

startail hehe well a bit of naggin never hurts n e one when its needed smile) hehe...

Lovin all these wonderful stories :D xxxx

Startail Tue 05-Mar-13 10:54:13

Since I knew by the end of DH and I's first date (whole weekend), that if I went back we'd end up married, 8 months seems like forever.

DH and I got engaged after six weeks and will have been together 25 years at the end of the month.

Yes I was sensible, but I wasn't mature. I was 20, he was my 2nd proper BF and the only one I've ever slept with.

As you say he is just very easy to be with, we just slotted into each others lives. We were students, with no money. Because of being in different cities we lived together at week ends from day one and did very ordinary things.

Now I need to nag him to get the washing out grin

I met DP in December and we both feel this way about one another smile so 8 months is definitely not too soon!

Sammieh86 Tue 05-Mar-13 10:49:37

jen im sure thats not true smile! Hehe smile xx

FairyJen Tue 05-Mar-13 10:44:22

sam I should point out that dp is probably sick of me by now grin he hides it well tho wink

weegiemum Argentina Tue 05-Mar-13 10:39:18

My Dad and Stepmum were married within 3 months of meeting - and that was including blending families together (me, sister and brother lived with Dad and DSM had 3 boys).

They've now been married 27 years and are still blissfully happy.

Sammieh86 Tue 05-Mar-13 10:34:45

Lovely to her that ppl who felt like this are still exactly the same 10 years on smile im so glad i posted a thread now really has enlightened my day u always read horror stories, lovely to hear the real life fairy tales instead smile xx

Lucyellensmum95 Tue 05-Mar-13 10:33:18

I ust htink, if you don't know by now.........................smile

StrawColoured Tue 05-Mar-13 10:30:17

Wow, co-incidence or what! I am a very rare MN user but know it's the best place for relationships advice. Today I came on here with more or less exactly the same question as you Sammieh86, and it's great to read everyone's answers.

FairyJen Tue 05-Mar-13 10:28:20

Bless you op. I know the feeling, like I said its been nearly 10 years but I still get butterflies when I know he is on his way home from work blush

Then he dumps his stuff on floor in tidy house and I wish he would bugger off again grin

Sammieh86 Tue 05-Mar-13 10:22:43

He feels the same smile just sometimes after being theu so much u kinda think its too good to be true --- maybe thats just the pessimist in me tho smile)

Im positive we can ge through anything together, and now ive met him i truly do feel complete, he says hed never thought of marriage before he met me, but says he cant think of anything better tha. Growing old
Together <3

Not going to rush too much but im hoping that by christmas this year well have both decided to at least get engaged smile) im with him every single day and every single night and its not a chore to either of us its because we want to be together, we still see our own friends and neither of us are controlling in any way we do as we please, but we choose to spend every minute we can with each other....

Sorry for goin on, just totally head over heels finding 'the one' sure is a special thing <3 xx

steppemum Netherlands Tue 05-Mar-13 10:16:13

we met in Sept, started going out in dec got engaed at easter and married in summer - less than a year form meeting to marriage!

But we were 30+, knew ourselves and what we wanted. We also saw a lot of each other, so got to know each other well.

When asked I do always say don't rush into things, as it is easy to miss things or be swept away in emotion. But then we did grin

Been married 14 years this summer, 3 dcs, very happy

FairyJen Tue 05-Mar-13 10:12:15

I knew dp was the one te moment Iet him. Went back to his the same night and the following day he moved in with me. Been nearly 10 years and we have 2 dc now. smile

If you know, you know. How does he feel?

Sammieh86 Tue 05-Mar-13 10:09:32

Were the same, after first date we were literally indeperable, weve been thru alot nightmare exs etc...but stronger than ever smile) weve never had words just other people trying to get involved, now we just laugh at them smile...

I know ive got a good one - and theres no way im letting anyone get in the way smile

It is lovely to feel that happy endings do happen, everyone deserves one <3 xx

flurp Tue 05-Mar-13 10:04:46

No its not too soon to know he's the one. I knew about that time with DP (he says he knew I was the one from our first date but it took me a while to let my guard down grin)
Just take it slow with his dc - my DP has 2 kids and we had quite different parenting styles which was a bit of a hurdle for us but we have both compromised a lot and seem to have got it about right now but it was a while getting there.

Sammieh86 Tue 05-Mar-13 09:43:59

Thankyou so much for all of your replies an lovely stories u all seem so happy smile)

And yee he does feel the same and prob ly the first relationship ive been in where i dont doubt this one bit, his actions say it all i mean after all n e one can say i love you...

We do both have our own children, he is brilliant to mine, dont more for them than their own dad has ever done, unfortunatly im not allowed to meet his yet as his ex isnt happy with it, i spose that will sort out in its own time tho, i dont push it as that to me is between those two, plus ge knows that i cant wait to meet them and shall treat them exactly as my own....

Really hope that we'll take another step forward soon, i just know this is right smile)

Xxx

ChestyLeRoux Tue 05-Mar-13 09:00:05

We were also engaged after 2 months.8 months is definitely not too early.

RoseGarden123 Tue 05-Mar-13 08:59:42

No, I agree with above especially if you are a grown and mature individual. I do think there is more consideration to take when you are a parent and their are children involved but in essence I do believe you know when you have a good one.
My husband and I met when I was 26. After two long term relationships, both of which I never felt ready to move onto living with, engagement etc, I met DH and we moved in together within 2 months, engaged in 9 mths and married in 18mths with a little one on the way soon after. I think everyone around me thought I was a bit mad even though they like DH tremendously, however I just knew it was right and 5 years on I have never had a moment of regret. I was mature enough at that point to know what I did and didn't want and not to be swept away by lust. I knew we shared common goals, morals, priorities and we loved and respected each other.
I think if you have had a hard time in the past, sometimes it is hard to believe that true love really does happen and we can have happy endings!

crispsarenotoneofyour5aday Tue 05-Mar-13 08:59:10

No - it's not too soon. We were engaged within two months of meeting and just celebrated our 13 wedding anniversary. I am a great one for going with your instincts. Does it feel right? If it does and he feels the same way then here's hoping it works out for you! smile

I wouldn't say its too soon. Its nearly a year grin

Do you know how he feels? That's the only issue.

He sounds like a good catch though!

MegBusset Tue 05-Mar-13 08:58:52

I was engaged to DH within nine months of meeting. We celebrate our tenth wedding anniversary this year smile

Hope it works out for you OP.

BlingLoving Tue 05-Mar-13 08:53:56

No. It's not too soon. Especially if you are a grown up mature person, which clearly you are.

I a believe that the older you get the less time it should take. You know your own mind. You know what you want an what's important. You shouldn't be agonising. Doesn't mean you Shoukd rush things but I don't think you should e doubting yourself either.

My only real question is whether this feeling is mutual? That's the killer. I hope it is.

In happy for you. I love to see stories of people meeting and falli g in love. Most people are nice and just want a happy life and I do like to see that reflected I here. Goo luck.

Sammieh86 Tue 05-Mar-13 08:41:58

Hi all

I met this trully amazing man august last year after 5 years of being a single parent - odd dates here and there...

I can honestly say i am head over heels for this man, i cannot say a bad word about him, hes reliable, hardworking, kind, thoughtful, and has never once let me down...

Just wanted to know others opinions on whether they think 8 months is too soon to really know someone? I honestly feel like i want to marry this man one day....

Just interested in wha others think xx

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