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what to do?

(41 Posts)
RubixCube Tue 05-Mar-13 02:00:58

Dp invited some bloke i don't even know to sleep.My house is tiny.His roaming about upstairs.His making wierd noises.one minute i can hear him move about then his snoring.My dd is very shy,so if she wakes to go toilet and see a man she doesn't know in there she will be terrified so now i have to keep awake.No doubt theres puke all over the bathroom as i can hear the bath being banged against every now and then

CordeliaChase Tue 05-Mar-13 02:06:09

Is this guy drunk? Just go and bang on the door and ask if everything is ok. Better still, kick your dp out of bed so he can check. This guy is your dps responsibility so he has to sort it.

RubixCube Tue 05-Mar-13 02:10:52

his gone downstairs now.His been up here for ages.I don't feel comfortable about some i don't know roaming my house on the night with my kids in it.

RubixCube Tue 05-Mar-13 02:15:44

If i thought my snoring pig of dp wouldn't shout at me i would wake him.He will be getting a telling later though when my kids are out of the house.I think his moved this bloke in.Hooe i'm wrong

RubixCube Tue 05-Mar-13 02:20:58

I think drunk yes.They strolled in about 11.30.My dp never lets himself in though.He bangs on the door and wakes me up.Thanks twat

Littleturkish Tue 05-Mar-13 02:55:23

KTBO -kick the bastard out- in your case, bastards plural.

Where is he meant to be sleeping?

RubixCube Tue 05-Mar-13 03:05:18

on my sofa.Great isnt it.His supposed to be gone by 6.I can't see it myself as his been passing out and making groaning noises

RubixCube Tue 05-Mar-13 03:07:13

He said this person has no where to stay and he will talk to his mates and see if they will put him up tommorow i.e today thats what makes me think his moved him in

Monty27 Tue 05-Mar-13 03:09:01

OMG, I don't have a dp or dh now, but in those days when I had yound dc's i'd have been ringing a cab for anyone wandering around my house unsupervised.

I may well have put exh in it too.

RubixCube Tue 05-Mar-13 03:17:25

He put me on spot he asked me if his friend if he could stay knowing full well id shy away from saying no.Had he asked me by taking me in another room I'd have said no sorry you know what i told you last time i don't want people i don't know in my house on a night with my kids here.It's not safe for my kids when were are asleep etc

CordeliaChase Tue 05-Mar-13 03:18:14

Don't put up with it! Tell your 'd' p that the next time he wants to move some random stranger into your house, you need some warning so you can pack your bags and take yourself and the kids out the way.

RubixCube Tue 05-Mar-13 03:23:50

I'm glad people arnt saying i have to put up with it because it's his house too.I honestly don't mind if kids aint here or having his mates around during the day or whatever but this takes the piss.The last bloke he invited around came with a mate my dp didn't even know ffs i didn't know until the next day the other bloke was even here.

RubixCube Tue 05-Mar-13 03:28:58

Oh yeah he failed to mention the other bloke.Just that his friend was sleeping over and he would go 1st thing in the morning.Did he heck.He went about 1pm

Monty27 Tue 05-Mar-13 03:31:45

Wouldn't be having it myself.

Hope you get some rest.

TisILeclerc Tue 05-Mar-13 05:21:16

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Morloth Tue 05-Mar-13 05:29:39

Seriously? This has happened more than once and now you think he has moved someone in?

NO.

Just NO.

No-one puts my kids at risk, not even their dad.

Say NO.

And if he doesn't like it he can fuck off as well.

RubixCube Tue 05-Mar-13 07:07:44

well his still here.Have had to my kids brekkie upstairs whilst my dp snores like a pig

RubixCube Tue 05-Mar-13 07:08:51

He was supposed to be gone by 6 for work

karatekimmi Tue 05-Mar-13 07:15:07

Why are you putting up with this? Go and wake the guy up downstairs and ask does he want a taxi booking or is he walking?

RubixCube Tue 05-Mar-13 07:16:39

My mistake his gone.Thought i saw his head it was a cushion grin Made my ds come in withe.His defanetly gone but the question is will he be back

RubixCube Tue 05-Mar-13 07:17:09

*with me

TisILeclerc Tue 05-Mar-13 07:38:08

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

RubixCube Tue 05-Mar-13 07:54:15

This is the same person who used to allow his son to bring one night stands to our home when we had a baby in the house.I wonder if he would have been alright if it was a daighter bringing random men home

Morloth Tue 05-Mar-13 08:38:42

So what are you going to do about it?

RubixCube Tue 05-Mar-13 09:00:09

I will have ago obviously but it goes through one ear and out of the other.Just wished i had the confidence just to say no people.I'm going to have to practice aint i? What should i say if he comes tonight?If i say sorry not on a school night then thats leaves the weekend.

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