Just as my title says my partner has gone to his first NA meeting tonight after an ultimatum from me. He has been clean 20 days but is still drinking & he needs more help than I can offer. His drugs of choice were smoking heroin & crack, sniffing coke & alcohol. His family all do drugs. He thinks it is all normal. he has 3 sons he can not see because of drugs & DV. We have a 1 year old. We separated for a while & are together now as he admitted a problem but still hadn't got help. last night he went to the shop & was gone 3 hours, drinking. I left him a quilt on the sofa & went to bed & today told him he gets help or gets out. So he went, after much mud slinging this evening & nonsense. he just rang me & is telling me he's surrounded by zombies etc. I said have you found nothing helpful. He said oh yeah it's people like me, we are soft good people, bend over backwards for others & always bite our tongues over the hurt & that is why we do it. So I see it hasnt helped his finger pointing/blaming others for his addiction. He said he is going to make his phone ring & say he has 4 kids & is needed home so he can leave early. I said no you need to stay to the end as I know they do the serenity prayer, keyrings etc. He started shouting at me so I hung up. Also shows he hasn't told them he can't even see 3 of his kids so has either kept quiet or if I know him done the my mrs is a loon, she sent me here or is going to throw me out. I only do it coz she slept with my brother/mum/dog (I didn't) etc. Dreading his return, he has no key & if he is shouting at me then he can sleep elsewhere.
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Squiglettsmummy2bx · 02/03/2013 20:48
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