Aaagghh - I thought I was pretty much back to the old me, before my ex's infidelity, but it would seem that's not the case.
I met a guy on holiday last November - I live in London and he lives in Edinburgh which we both accept. We just clicked and I think he's drop dead gorgeous and he seems to have the same opinion of me. So, what's the problem?
Since Valentine's Day my head has been full of total paranoia about other women... this is totally irrational, undeserved and completely stems from my ex's non-stop lies during his affair. I have never been a jealous person - I was never like this before, not even slightly and now I am just tormented. Obviously the distance between us doesn't help but even if he lived 5 miles down the road I know I'd be the same and would probably be worse as I could sit in a car outside the poor bloke's house noting all female visitors ...
I couldn't live with the torment any more so I had an insane moment and called everything off in a spiral of paranoia as the more I feel for this man the worse I am getting. I know I've fallen in love with him but I can't bear the thought of being consumed by this irrational jealousy.
I did see a counsellor to help me get over my marriage break down and I'm seriously thinking about going back to see if he can help me with this because I fear these demons will wreck any potential partnerships I have. Has anyone else experienced irrational jealously and got over it? Do any of you have survival tips / coping mechanisms for this?
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Help! Irrational jealousy - a fallout from the ex's infidelity
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BeforeAndAfter · 02/03/2013 01:28
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