Hi - I've trawled these threads and realise that my story is almost exactly the same as everyone else's: DH, nice bloke and all, decides to express his unhappiness with reality by boning a colleague. Totally found out and now wants to start again. I have read so much good advice and feel at least that I'm thinking clearly.
However, there's one area of advice that I just can't get my head round but want to see if I'm missing the point. The gist seems to be that you make him break contact with OW and check he has done it and even tell OW DH to make doubly sure you've scuppered the relationship, then keep him on a short leash around texting and emails etc.
This doesn't sit right with me - I want him to stop what he's doing because he wants to, to be with his family, and not because I've forced him. My thinking at the moment is that he's been irresponsible enough and if he chooses to carry on he can fuck off, frankly.
Another however - I only found out about this last weekend and I am also aware that I probably don't know what I'm feeling at the moment.
Any insight or advice very much appreciated. xx
PS: DD1 is 4, DD2 is 14 mo. DH is 39 and a massive baby.
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DH unfaithful cliche, but minded to tell him to shove it. Too hasty?
DHtotalnob · 01/03/2013 23:36
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