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could you date someone who cant spell?

(70 Posts)
oopsadaisymaisy Sun 17-Feb-13 19:07:08

I fully expect to need my hard hat, please don't be too harsh. I like someone, he's really sweet and he makes me laugh but he can't spell. We text each other a lot and I'm amazed at how poor his spelling is. I'm not talking the odd spelling mistake, I make them myself, I mean seriously bad spelling. It's not going to stop me seeing him but it does bother me a little bit.

kinkyfuckery Sun 17-Feb-13 19:08:24

Do you know him outwith texting? Is he intelligent enough to have conversation with?

coffeeinbed Sun 17-Feb-13 19:08:59

This is probably not the place to point out the misspelling in the OP?

usualsuspect Sun 17-Feb-13 19:10:21

My do can't spell,doesn't bother me in the slightest.

oopsadaisymaisy Sun 17-Feb-13 19:11:06

Ha ha, go for it. I'm on my phone apologies for any spelling mistakes. No, he's not my usual type at all but I do like him.

shrimponastick Sun 17-Feb-13 19:11:25

I met my DH online. His spelling and punctuation were a factor in choosing him. ;)

MadBusLady Sun 17-Feb-13 19:11:25

If I thought it was totally at odds with the rest of his personality (ie he was a highly intelligent person who happened to be dyslexic or similar), yes.

Otherwise no, I am a total snob about this stuff. It is a huge signifier to me of how thoughtful, intelligent and possibly even caring someone is.

<joins OP under hard hat>

usualsuspect Sun 17-Feb-13 19:11:32

Dp* bloody auto correct

oopsadaisymaisy Sun 17-Feb-13 19:13:26

Anyway, I'm not going to stop seeing him because he can't spell but I would like to be more tolerant. It does help knowing that it doesn't bother everyone.

bruffin Sun 17-Feb-13 19:13:37

My dh can't spell probably diagnosed dyslexic.
Being able to spell has very little to do with intelligence as many dyslexic are highly intelligent.
It can being annoying to be asked howvto spell stuff all the time. My Ds has dyslexic problems as well so get asked a lot, but have been married 21 years it not really affected us.

colditz Sun 17-Feb-13 19:13:44

Yes of course I would, but they would have to be intelligent enough to keep up with me because I dated a thicko once .... Never again.

usualsuspect Sun 17-Feb-13 19:13:49

But then I'm not a snob.

BertieBotts Sun 17-Feb-13 19:14:23

Nope. DP is dyslexic and his spelling is terrible but he's very intelligent and I can have challenging conversations with him.

However XP was not very bright and his spelling used to irk me, even though he couldn't help it - he was dyslexic too.

I know this is terrible blush I sometimes smile to myself too when DP takes 3 attempts to spell a word on draw something blush but then I have incredibly stupid moments which I'm sure he is equally privately amused by.

dondon33 Sun 17-Feb-13 19:15:11

So long as he could hold an intelligent conversation then yes. I don't see why not.

frustratedworkingmum Sun 17-Feb-13 19:15:55

"I'm on my phone apologies for any spelling mistakes"................!!!!!!! Have you thought that maybe he is just that bothered about spell check? What does he do for a living? Is he thoughtful, considerate? Sexy? have a nice bum? All those things are more important that his spelling ability. At least i hope so, because my DD is dyslexic and at 6, really struggling, i think she gets it from my DP as he cannot spell for toffee - I'd hate to think that she would be judged as a potential partner in her future because she cant spell.

BertieBotts Sun 17-Feb-13 19:16:12

It's stupid isn't it? Spelling really isn't anything to do with intelligence but we seem to link it subconsciously.

I think in actual fact it's something like a slight lisp or a wonky tooth or bad hair - would barely register if you like the person but if you don't then it becomes a source of irritation.

noddyholder Sun 17-Feb-13 19:17:24

madbus how can you tell how caring someone is by their spelling ability

oopsadaisymaisy Sun 17-Feb-13 19:17:27

Oh no, I was hoping I would meet with criticism rather than like minded spelling snobs. He's not very intelligent either but he's so cute. I don't know him well enough yet to make these judgements and I don't want to be a snob but I bloody am!

frustratedworkingmum Sun 17-Feb-13 19:17:44

Actually, im probably being niave in thinking she wont be sad Not saying you are judging OP, but people will i guess. It breaks my heart

usualsuspect Sun 17-Feb-13 19:17:57

My dp is probably dyslexic.He was probably labelled a thicko at school back in the day.

CogitoErgoSometimes Sun 17-Feb-13 19:18:09

The spelling wouldn't bother me so much as whether they could make intelligent conversation, have opinions, be witty, well-informed, interesting ... that kind of thing. If the spelling was rubbish and they were thick as two short planks as well... no thanks. Funnily enough one of my current b/fs is not gifted in the spelling dept but he's a very successful director of a multinational.

frustratedworkingmum Sun 17-Feb-13 19:19:04

Well, if he isn't very intelligent but cute, just use him as a fuck buddy then move on when someone with a better vocabulary comes along!

NoisesOff Sun 17-Feb-13 19:19:53

It would put me off a lot, unless it was due to dyslexia. But it's important to me to be with someone who cares about the written word. I met my husband through internet dating. His emails stood out for being articulate, witty and intelligent.

MechanicalTheatre Sun 17-Feb-13 19:19:57

God no, this wouldn't bother me at all.

frustratedworkingmum Sun 17-Feb-13 19:20:47

"Funnily enough one of my current b/fs is not gifted in the spelling department"...........shock envy grin

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