I think my mum might be an alcoholic, but not sure and questioning myself about it as she really is lovely. There are a few alcohol stories that are quite epic, but I'll leave those for a mo as am on my phone and it would use all my battery to describe them. But basically when we go to hers she says she's not drinking but will then sneak off to the garage and have a drink. There is a fridge in the garage and she will keep dipping into. We know this because my sis has become a bit of a detective and will watch the bottle go down each time she comes out of the garage.
She starts to slur but pretends its because she's tired. If we visit by train she will sometimes make an excuse to not collect us and so we get a cab. But then all the old signs appear (slurring, repeating herself) and something tells you she's been drinking.
She is a very anxious person. Her husband, my stepfather, is unwell at the moment and she is having to care solely for him. They are also in middle of moving house. So they have a lot going on.
Our family has a history of alcoholism. Her mother was an alcoholic, and so is her sister. Her husband drinks (half pint glasses of wine) even though his illness is diabetes related and has been told specifically not to drink.
The problem is I feel so angry about it, as well as worrying about it. But I no longer feel sympathetic. Her relationship with alcohol has always been a bit haphazard since we were little. I have had enough. She is supposed to be looking after my dd who is one next week. She asked to have her (we live about 100 miles apart). I worry that it will be too much for her. I am also worried about her drinking when she has her. At the moment I can't help her as I feel so angry about it.
There is no point to this post other than to let off steam and here other people's points of view. I just don't know what to do.
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luckywinner · 14/02/2013 19:12
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