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Most people who are interested in the fetish scene are also very keen on consent, not on using it as a justification to abuse a partner. Is this man abusive generally? Because you sound like you are scared of him: some people would say, look DP you are annoying me in the night, stop it, sort it out.

Do YOU belive him OP? You know him best.
To me - it sounds believeable fro him reaction. If he were lying I think it would play it down, maybe laugh and try to brush it off.

However, he needs to see it through with the GP. I hope you can come through this and you can forgive him. IF you believe him

Am I the only one wondering WTF, a house with absolutely nothing in the way of spare blankets?

me too Marina. I could spare enough to bed down an army

Yeah marina cus that's the main issue here isn't it ?
FFS

I think marina's pointing out that this is a bit of a weak excuse. If he showed any commitment to getting this sorted he'd sleep under a coat and keep his clothes on, instead of somehow persuading OP that he can't possibly manage another night on the sofa.

Marina is merely pointing out the very obvious temporary solution of one partner sleeping elsewhere

This probably is nt help ful in real terms but may explain where the idea stems from.There is a fifty shades style book called bared to you out at the moment where the handsome hero type has this condition.He attacks heroine while she is asleep. Utter twaddle as a read but fifty shades was responsible for a lot of funny ideas in some men's heads IMO.In real life protect yourself sleep separately Think about contacting a refuge make an escape plan etc I don t feel that you are safe.There is potentially a lot of aggression in this man awake or asleep.