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IVF and Losing DH ....

(27 Posts)
IThinkIKnowBestBut Wed 13-Feb-13 16:23:01

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foodtech Fri 15-Feb-13 23:13:02

I can understand how you feel. We've been TTC 4 years now with 1 miscarriage and 2 IVF's in that time. We were told after our last cycle our only hope is donor eggs and I just can't do it. Feel we have been through so much and just want to be with my DH who has been amazing.

Feel so guilty though as feel I should at least try for my DH but can't do it all again. It's too hard. He wants to try with DE which hurts so much as I feel like such a failure being unable to give him this. I'm only 29 and know we have time to decide but am terrified this will break us apart.

Please consider counselling, we went after our last failed cycle and it did help. It's such an emotive and heartbreaking subject that having someone to listen helps sort out crazy feels and thoughts.

Sorry for the ramble.

VenusRising Mon 18-Feb-13 11:48:00

Some lovely supportive posts on here OP, and glad your partner is so supportive.

It's the great untold story in my book: the TTC roller coaster.

Counselling will help your tease out your feelings on this, and help you understand and support each other, whatever your decision is.

For me IVF was just a step too far, and, maybe miraculously, we conceived without any intervention- I feel so blessed to have our DC.
However, we made a conscious decision not to try even for another one, as we were aware how draining TTCing is. We got a cat instead!

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