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So he was a cocklodger. What does that say about me?

(59 Posts)
BesameBesame Sat 09-Feb-13 20:35:21

I'm staring another thread because I've come to the conclusion he was a cocklodger. I googled it. He fits the description almost to a tee.

No wonder he went so easily. He must have been waiting daily for me to get a grip and kick him out. And he had the nerve to say my timing was bad, he'd got nowhere to go and no worldly goods to show.

FFS! I need to rant some…..

kirstys23 Sat 09-Feb-13 20:36:47

Maybe being a bit naive here...what's a cocklodger?

Nagoo Sat 09-Feb-13 20:37:54

It says you have learned to recognise a cocklodger.

The rest of your life will be better smile

SoleSource Sat 09-Feb-13 20:38:11

Easily taken advantage.of because you were not aware of his ibtentions. You did not read the signals.

happened to me.too, he stole.my.passport, a bag of valuable stuff and a car.

SoleSource Sat 09-Feb-13 20:39:17

I still feel really foolish five years on. It will be.five years since he left this December

What a cunt I.hope karma is true

SoleSource Sat 09-Feb-13 20:40:02

he was my.tipping point. Bastard!!!!!

MikeOxardAndWellard Sat 09-Feb-13 20:40:02

I agree with Nagoo. Well done and congrats! x

Monty27 Sat 09-Feb-13 20:40:48

Besame you've made great progress, recognising it and acting on it. Well done.

littlemisssarcastic Sat 09-Feb-13 20:41:39

Every cocklodger I have ever heard about always says they've got nowhere to go.

Lueji Sat 09-Feb-13 20:42:23

And he had the nerve to say my timing was bad, he'd got nowhere to go and no worldly goods to show.

Because he is a cocklodger, instead of doing something for himself.
Tough.

Well done getting rid. smile

Lueji Sat 09-Feb-13 20:43:35
SoleSource Sat 09-Feb-13 20:44:17

My cocklodger said he cpuld stay at.his ofoce and did I want.him to leave.

Of course not I.loved him

Bastard

expatinscotland Sat 09-Feb-13 20:44:36

Bravo, Besame!

BesameBesame Sat 09-Feb-13 20:46:37

Well, one of my RL friends said early on 'blimey he's almost too good to be true isn't he?"

angry

izzyizin Sat 09-Feb-13 20:47:12

What does it say about you? That you've been a fool to believe that a man who was out to take advantage of you had any interest in you over and above furtherng his own ends.

We live and learn and some lessons are more expensive than others. Next time watch your purse as well as your heart.

BesameBesame Sat 09-Feb-13 20:53:56

He stopped off at same RL friends house on the way to where he moved from and told them "Besame is so stressed". I reckon he stopped short of saying I was mad because he'd never have got away with it. RL friend suggested cocklodger give me some time/space alone and maybe we could try again. Cocklodger won't hear of it, it's either all or nothing. Of course it is, because he has to do sweet fuck all.

Christ I'd love to have a conversation with his EXDW (and no. I wasn't an affair partner).

Aaaaarrggghhh!!!

BesameBesame Sat 09-Feb-13 20:57:52

True izzy. Fortunately I think I've had a very, very lucky escape.

What I won't be foolish about when he comes to collect the rest of his stuff is the 'poor me' charm. It will be waiting for him at the doorstep.

izzyizin Sat 09-Feb-13 21:11:26

It's either 'all or nothing'? That'll be a 'nothing' except a time and date to collect the pile of bin bags which will be waiting for him outside your front door while you relax inside with your feet up, tv/dvd on, and champagne ready to pop when he and his motley possessions have departed grin

All of these manipulative twats are ham actors could win awards in the 'poor me' stakes. Don't be fooled again, honey. It's always been about him and it always will be.

BesameBesame Sat 09-Feb-13 21:16:59

By the time I told him it was over I knew that it was all about him.

That's why I was careful with my words. I didn't mention him not making a contribution to the expenses, or the other things which I had come to resent.

I said the only thing i knew he couldn't manipulate. I said my feelings for him had gone.

Even he had to admit he couldn't argue with that. Twunt.

SoleSource Sat 09-Feb-13 22:27:12

Besame you did brilliantly. grin x

BesameBesame Sat 09-Feb-13 22:50:12

blush why thank you sole. I am rather proud of myself and that has nothing to do with wine at all.

I am celebrating by posting my dubious wisdom on any other thread that'll have me tonight, secure in the knowledge that 1. cocklodger won't make stupid comments about feminist lesbian man-haters, and 2. He can't search my lappy history. Stupid man.

SoleSource Sat 09-Feb-13 22:53:13

He can just cock off!!!

BesameBesame Sat 09-Feb-13 22:57:18

But you know what?

I know FOR SURE that he'll be OD already asap looking for the next 'replacement' and there are lots of women who want to look after someone like him.

Thank fuck it's not me.

BesameBesame Sat 09-Feb-13 22:58:48

grin

SoleSource Sat 09-Feb-13 23:01:37

You kicked that no good hustler to the kerb..HA!!

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