I've had a really good male friend for about 12 years now, we've always got on great, always been really supportive of each other etc, just a normal friendship really.
We stayed in touch even when I was overseas for years, have supported/laughed at each other through various relationships, both crap and good ones.
Up till a few months ago we were in contact about once a month, but since a phone call a few months ago he hasn't replied to any texts or emails. It was a normal enough phone call, and he said that he's glad I'm back in the UK and wants us to be friends even when we're old and grey. Since that, no replies to texts, no calls. Don't want to text him and ask him why in case I come across as a psycho stalker 
but it also feels odd just to give up.
DH wonders if his girlfriend has banned him from talking to me, which would make it even more awkward if I did keep emailing (and getting ignored). This sounds ridiculous, but I keep having moments where I see something that would make him laugh and would usually text/call, but feel very awkward about doing that now. Just sad about losing such a long friendship I suppose, and wondering if I'm right just to let it tail off. Any advice would be lovely! 
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Being "ignored" by long term male friend - let it go?
NishiNoUsagi · 07/02/2013 21:16
text him - say you've been really quiet, have I upset you or are you just busy?
If there is not reply, forget and move on.
Now I need to take my own advice 
Lueji I actually have no way of knowing without ringing/texting him 
He never uses facebook, don't have any mutual friends as we've outlasted everyone.. I may just assume he's dead until proven wrong!
I can't think of anything that would have upset him. I was having some problems but trying not to talk to him too much as I didn't want to bore him, he nagged me (nicely) into telling him so he could help, he was nicely supportive, I changed the subject back to more entertaining things, then he said what he said about being friends until we're old and grey.
And actually realised I have lied in my op 
I said I didn't hear from him after that but realised i didn't hear for about 6 weeks after that call, sent a text asking how he was and saying it would be lovely to chat if he was free he texted back a week later saying "how are you hope everything's cool" no mention of calling which he would usually mention iyswim. Sent him a text saying happy xmas, got nothing back. I hate overthinking things, and this is making me overthink. Grr!! Taking solace in monster munch.
loler and starfish I really should just man up shouldn't I! But lack of replies is making feel too awkward I know we're close enough that it shouldn't matter, but I also feel like he wouldn't stop contact for months with no reason. Hence the inaction and overthinking
Blimey, hope it's not the sinister option! Not sure about him just not getting my texts, because nothing's come from him spontaneously for so long now.
God, I feel about 12 I guess I'm just worried about irritating him if he's decided things have run their course for whatever reason. Mind you if he thinks that he could at least let me know so I don't keep contacting him!
Right, I'll put on my big girl pants and call him then. Thank you for the help!
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