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My friend doesn't believe me! Bit personal ...

(12 Posts)
TinkerTailorSoldierSahm Mon 04-Feb-13 19:50:52

Was having a chat with a friend the other night and she said that she didn't orgasm with a bloke till she had been having sex for about 3 years.

But when I told her I orgasmed when I lost my virginity she didn't believe me.

At first we laughed but she seriously would not accept this,

She said I was just 'showing off' as DH was sat with us, but I wasn't!

Surely its not that unbelievable? Or am I odd?

VitoCorleone Mon 04-Feb-13 20:02:45

Everyone is different

Lueji Mon 04-Feb-13 20:07:14

She's jealous.

Female orgasm is not a matter of how long you have been having sex for.

It's to do with you and the person you have sex with.

TinkerTailorSoldierSahm Mon 04-Feb-13 20:14:49

She just made me feel a bit stupid, not because of the act itself but because she was implying I was lying about it.

It went from lighthearted giggle to a bit awkward!

Dahlen Mon 04-Feb-13 20:43:17

Steer clear of the topic in the future. I'd say her first sexual partner was probably quite inept, which isn't a nice thing for her to face up to if she's the type that will somehow see this as a reflection on her desirability rather than his ability IYSWIM.

sooperdooper Mon 04-Feb-13 20:56:40

There's no offical timescale, everyone's different, and it's as much to do with being at ease with yourself as your partner, neither is unbelievable, neither is 'right'

BerylStreep Mon 04-Feb-13 20:58:15

It's a bit of an intimate conversation to be having tbh. hmm

IMO the odd thing about this is that you would be discussing it with your friend at all.

Is she generally very competitive?

kalidanger Mon 04-Feb-13 21:28:43

Everyone's different and surely you know this? It took me a (long) while to find my groove while my friend was having orgasms at the drop of a, uh, knicker. And yes, we talked about it but back when we were 18/19, not so much now.

badinage Mon 04-Feb-13 22:05:40

I too think it's an odd conversation to be having, especially the 3-way nature of it with your husband sitting there.

But I believe you. I too orgasmed when I lost my virginity and in fact have never not orgasmed with any subsequent partner. Tbh I could never see the point otherwise. It would be unthinkable for men to accept not orgasming with a sexual partner and I've never seen any reason to think that women should be any different.

Cocolollip Mon 04-Feb-13 23:47:28

Well I'm 27 and I've never had one through penetration shock

dondon33 Tue 05-Feb-13 02:59:43

This reminds me of a convo I had with a friend years ago - We were discussing orgasms and she came out with
' I'm not sure if I've had one, I think I have' hmm
She was 25 and had been having sex since the age of 16 plenty practice
I kind of said that she'd KNOW if she'd had one but later thought maybe she didn't get the same feelings that I did..... Turned out at that point she hadn't orgasmed ever - she realised this a few years later when she got with a new DP and she experienced what I meant.
Sorry, slightly off topic blush
No your not odd nor unbelievable.

RM76 Tue 05-Feb-13 03:41:49

I did too. I met my hubby at 16, started going out at 17, spent a year seriously fooling around, then got down to it. We've been together 19 years and I've NEVER had a problem. Gosh, managed to circle around that without saying anything rude, hope you got the gist!

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