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Advice needed, someones got a crush on ME

(443 Posts)
Usingtheplot Sat 02-Feb-13 09:40:10

This is probably going to sound really silly, but I'm hoping that someone,somewhere can help me deal with this very awkward situation I find myself in.
I'm a 43 year old single mom and work part time doing an incredibly boring job. That said, my colleagues are great and that makes things a little less tedious.I'm a very chatty and fairly confident person and find it easy to initiate conversation with even the most reserved people.
I have not been in a relationship for many years. This has not bothered me the slightest bit. I've not even had a serious romantic interest in a man.Friend s gave up trying to "pair me off" a long time ago and accept that I'm happy being single.
OK, I'll cut to the chase. One of the men at work, a senior member of staff,is someone I greatly admire. I often used to have a natter with him and I enjoyed his company. He's very popular,what you'd call a thoroughly nice man.We have a bit in common,but I wouldn't go so far as to say we were friends.We just shared a few light hearted chats ,nothing more. I didn't find him attractive,although I suppose he is quite good looking.
Recently though I've begun to dread meeting him at work,not because I don't want to see him or anything, but because he's acting like a love sick teenager when I'm around.
I don't know when it all started,it really took me by surprise.One day we were having our usual chat/banter and the next day he couldn't look me in the eye and was blushing furiously. It didn't help that I started blushing with embarrasment too.
I carried on my duties and decided this was a one off. When I passed his office I said hello etc and he blushed even more. I couldn't break the ice.This has continued for the past couple of weeks.He used to always say goodnight when he was leaving, but this has stopped. He avoids passing me in the corridor and when he does speak to me, he trips over his words and stammers.
I have to admit that I'm flattered by the fact he likes me, and I'm begining to think that I may like him too.
I really don't know why he's developed this crush on me. I've not said anything that would lead him on. I'm jovial but not outright flirty .
I just want to break this spell.

rubyrubyruby Sat 30-Mar-13 19:08:48

Hope everything goes ok OP smile

Ignore the comments made here about your DS. I'm sure he was being supportive in his own way.

kerstina Sun 31-Mar-13 09:45:34

So how did it go ? ? ? Want to know ALL the details please smile

chezziejo Sun 31-Mar-13 10:29:53

And we mean ALL grin

GettingGoing Sun 31-Mar-13 13:13:09

This had better have a happy ending ... I'm only on page one, but have logged in to spot the OP easier ...

GettingGoing Sun 31-Mar-13 13:35:43

Well, that's 20 minutes of my life I'll never get back ...

rubyrubyruby Sun 31-Mar-13 16:48:53

<<taps fingers on desk>>

Missmadlyinlust Sun 31-Mar-13 21:44:32

Hello all. This is Using here.
Update;
Crush picked me up, I wasn't as nervous as I thought I'd be, I think the works party took the edge off things to be honest.
I did make an effort to look good, but played it safe with nice jeans,boots and a pretty top.He looked like he'd been decked out from a designer shop. I'd never seen him in such fab clothes, he looked really hot and I told him so!
We went to a lovely little country pub and had a drink. It was warm and cosy ( the pub) and we had a real honest chat about what was going on .I 'fessed up about feeling awkward and uncomfortable asnd wanting my feelings to go away. He saiid pretty much the same. We both laughed about it and it was so nice to hear him say that he felt such an idiot about the way he behaived. He described it as being like having all his emotions trapped in a pressure cooker and not being able to release them.I replied that that was pretty much how I had been feeling.
He told me a bit about his pending divorce. His wife had not had affairs but they had simply grown apart but were still good friends.
So the conversation flowed really well, I fealt so at ease. It was different to how we talked before the crush,, but he seemed to bring out the best in me.
We had a meal there which was surprisingly good.He paid for everything. I never used to let a man do that before, but I thought hey, you earn enough,I'm broke and you asked me out.
After the meal, we went for a drive and Iall I could think of was when was he going to kiss me.
He asked me if I'd like to go home and I said it was a shame to end the night so soon. We pulled up at a local beauty spot and he turned the engine off.
He looked at me and told me he had had feelings for me since I started working with him! I thought this was a new crush?
I explained that I'd always liked him but my feelings for him had changed in the last couple of months and that I must have had blinkers on.
OK so we had the most amazing kiss. It was like no other kiss I've ever had. I can honestly say I've never felt such primal urges to do unmentionable things to someone.
He drove me home and I resited the urge to ask him in, I don't want to ruin any chances of this romance working out.
Well that's all that happened,but we are going out next weekend and I can't bloody wait.

Dollydowser Sun 31-Mar-13 21:56:53

Good for you smile, I'm keeping my fingers crossed it all works out well for you.

awwww that's fantastic!

ToffeeWhirl Sun 31-Mar-13 22:19:14

Have been lurking and am so, so pleased with this update grin.

You know you will have to update us next week too, don't you?

And invite us to the wedding wink

Pendipidy Sun 31-Mar-13 22:52:55

Hooray! Am so happy for you!

DevonCiderPunk Sun 31-Mar-13 22:53:18

what a lovely story smile

Midwife99 Sun 31-Mar-13 23:01:25

I've been lurking getting off on the suspense too & am so pleased for you! I bet you're beside yourself with excitement!! grin

ImperialBlether Sun 31-Mar-13 23:02:21

Did he explain why he'd been such a twat just a couple of days before?

Felicitywasonholiday Sun 31-Mar-13 23:38:32

I cannot believe I have missed this thread for the past two months. Just read it all in one sitting. A maze ing.

Well done OP.

GettingGoing Mon 01-Apr-13 00:14:43

At last smile. Not sure I can wait another week though.

WinterMymble Mon 01-Apr-13 01:55:03

This is awesome Using! Well done!!

chezziejo Mon 01-Apr-13 07:49:07

Yay, now then don't forget next weeks installment grin
Honestly tho I am so chuffed for you.

But did you ask why he was cruel to you at the work dinner? Did you talk about it?

He can't be mean one day and nice the next, and get away with it.

rubyrubyruby Mon 01-Apr-13 23:16:22

Was he cruel though really?

He knew they had a date arranged and obviously didnt want other people getting suspicious. He still has to work with them remember.

chezziejo Sun 07-Apr-13 10:29:21

Well it's Sunday so I'm impatiently waiting for an update?

Hope this weekend went well grin

yes, me too!

TooYappy Mon 08-Apr-13 13:21:11

smile

Nice weekend? <nosy>

GettingGoing Mon 08-Apr-13 13:58:26

bump <nosy too>

Missmadlyinlust Tue 09-Apr-13 22:00:16

Ok. So we had a date. Went bowling, not my idea;I'm really crap at bowling, well all sport for that matter.He tottally thrashed me,not that I care. It was fun,but I was expecting something a bit more " intimate".
Afterwards went for dinner at a local Indian. We had a brilliant time!Talked about just anything and everything.I was surprised at how easily the conversation flowed.
Everything was going fine until a group of colleagues from his ( my former) place of work came in. I said a cheery "hello", but he was sheepish. This unnerved me a bit to be honest,They were polite, but seemed surprised to see me and my date together. It did take the shine off things.
He hastily asked for the bill."what's the hurry?" I asked him. He explained this dating business was all new to him and he felt a tad uncomfortable, which I can understand.
Took me home, he was driving and as the kids were away I asked him if he'd like a Coffee?
Well,I got as far as putting the coffee in the cafatiere and ummmm....
He left at about 9pm on Sunday.
BINGO!!!!
He even cooked breakfast.
Oh. I do hope he's a stayer and not a player.
I'm never going to wash the pillow cases, I just want to smell him forever.

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