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Ex is a prick

(174 Posts)
Lovingfreedom Fri 01-Feb-13 18:17:48

I know I know...I've said it before...anyone interested in a thread where you can just say things like 'my ex is a prick' and other people say 'yeah so is mine'? I've tried wine and I've tried chocolate...but it's just not helping. He's not doing anything illegal, dangerous or frightening...just being self-righteous, entitled, irritating and generally... a prick..

JumpingJackSprat Fri 01-Feb-13 18:22:01

i am not in contact with my ex but hes a total wanker who tried to alienate me from my family and threatened to leave me in a foreign country (i would have had a much better holiday if he had!) wish id known about mumsnet back then! ill join you in the exes are pricks parade! grin

Skillbo Fri 01-Feb-13 18:46:48

Early days in our split but my H is an uncommunicative, selfish arsehole who I'm beginning to believe i am better without sad I know this should be a celebration of bell-end'ness so hope i don't spoil your vibe...

Lovingfreedom Fri 01-Feb-13 18:58:02

No Skillbo welcome....I feel the same about mine. Whenever he starts being a prick (i.e. whenever he is in touch) I think 'well at least I don't live with him any more'...sometimes it feels like cold comfort...but not the freezing chill that waking up from a dream and realising he still lives here would be.

Lovingfreedom Fri 01-Feb-13 19:00:26

JJS your ex sounds like a prize prick...congratulations (for getting shot of him). I wish mine lived in a foreign country...or preferably in a galaxy far far away.

Kernowgal Fri 01-Feb-13 19:11:42

Hi five from me - my ex is a massive wanker. I'm fairly sure his ex-wife would agree with me too. And probably his kids as well.

Kernowgal Fri 01-Feb-13 19:12:45

In fact if I won the lottery I would kidnap him and fire him into outer space, although the fucker would probably still find a way back.

kalidanger Fri 01-Feb-13 19:16:26

I wish mine would just disappear. He gives me two weeks to truly forget about him then he bloody calls me again. Which I don't answer but ffs. Get the hint! Dumped! Ignored! GO AWAY!

Lovingfreedom Fri 01-Feb-13 19:21:46

Lol Kernowgal big demand for tickets on that rocket. Mine is such a massive wanker I feel I should really be warning any future partners. Huge respect for OW who told him to piss off...one day I will text her to thank her for prompting me to kick him out.

Lovingfreedom Fri 01-Feb-13 19:24:55

Oh Kali I know what you mean....i like it best whenever ex is in one of his regular huffs....means I don't have to see, hear or read about the bastard for a few days....then I get one of his patronising 'let's communicate' emails and my heart sinks.

Fairlygrounded Fri 01-Feb-13 19:35:01

My ex is / was a violent, nasty twat and I've had no contact for 10 years. My husband is lovely, amazing, kind - the kind of 'nice' bloke I dumped before my 3 years with the ex. Maybe there is a point to the pricks - make us appreciate the wonders of peace, respect, calm. Hang on in there!

Kernowgal Fri 01-Feb-13 19:49:05

Hehehehe! Maybe we should get Richard Branson on the case.

Lovingfreedom Fri 01-Feb-13 19:49:29

Nice theory FG I'm seeing a nice guy now. Keep having to pinch myself to check I'm not dreaming...and him to check he's real. Agree...I probably wouldn't have looked at him were it not for the fact that spending 15 years with a total wanker has made me appreciate nice, normal, previously regarded as boring but actually lovely.....guys. Can't get fully shot of ex due to kids...I'm still fantasizing that he'll fall off a cliff....I live in hope.

delilahlilah Fri 01-Feb-13 19:54:10

Oh hell, yes! I left him 11 years ago and he is still a pain in the arse. I think he would be great for a safe sex campaign for teenage girls - it's not having a baby you need to worry about, but the man child you have to put up with for the next 18+ years.... Nothing cute about that!

The cheeky bastard has pressed all the wrong buttons recently. He has done jack shit towards DS, didn't pay a penny for years, and then whines and moans and claims to be hard done by when paying for anything for him. He wants a medal for giving him some school dinner money! I could fill a thread at the minute!!!! Between DV,EA and alcoholism, he's been a pleasure.

If F4J did more about the shit heads who behave like he has, they would get much more support than they do from any protests. These are the people who have wrecked it for the decent Dads out there. Grrr!!!

12stonelighter50feettaller Fri 01-Feb-13 19:54:45

Hello my ex is a prick. There, I said it grin grin grin .

He is a big man baby and every time my 4 yr old dd has a tantrum it reminds me of him.

I also have the cold comfort of knowing at least I can shut the front door every night now and have peace smile .

Lovingfreedom Fri 01-Feb-13 20:01:34

12stonelighter I'm assuming that your codename refers to the 12 stone of unsightly flab you lost when your loser ex said bye bye. Congratulations.

12stonelighter50feettaller Fri 01-Feb-13 20:09:46

Hell yes it is. grin

Lovingfreedom Fri 01-Feb-13 20:09:55

Delilah your ex reminds me if mine. I paid for music lessons, new instrument, sheet music, orchestra etc for DS then ex complains that I haven't supplied a new notebook and he's having to spend a pound on one. Prick.

kalidanger Fri 01-Feb-13 20:14:42

Mine was 15 stone of densely packed muscle, lightly covered with freckles. I miss that bit hmmblush

Lovingfreedom Fri 01-Feb-13 20:18:01

Kali in your case we recommend Rohypnal and a gag.

Squiglettsmummy2bx Fri 01-Feb-13 20:21:26

My ex is an evil nasty bastard & I wish he was dead. He is currently threatening to tell my Dd10 (not his) that her dad didn't want her when I was pregnant & hit me. This happened & I never forgave him but he is a good dad to DD & ds7. ' they adore him. The damage this would do to my kids is making me want to kill him. I only told him at a vulnerable moment when I needed him as a shoulder to cry on & now as things are bad between us he is throwing that around as a threat. I hate him angry

Lovingfreedom Fri 01-Feb-13 20:26:44

squig your ex sounds awful...do you believe in karma? If it's true I think you'll find he should be dead by morning. I've got my fingers crossed for you.

kalidanger Fri 01-Feb-13 20:27:52

Kali in your case we recommend Rohypnal and a gag.

For me?! I won't answer the phone! I promise! shock

wink

Squiglett How awful sad

12stonelighter50feettaller Fri 01-Feb-13 20:28:56

There is nothing like the feeling that someone you once saw as your ally is now able to throw all your secrets back in your face. I worry sometimes that I will never be able to open up again to a man just in case he uses my weaknesses against me, like my clutching-at-straws ex does. He uses all of my insecurities as a Mum against me now. Gah.

kalidanger Fri 01-Feb-13 20:38:05

12stone If he did do it would you lie to your DC and say it just wasn't true? I mean, I'm not suggesting this exactly, and we all know lies are wrong, but how to lessen the impact otherwise? Just thinking out loud really, sorry if inappropriate.

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