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Officially Divorced as of Today! Couldn't be happier

(55 Posts)

I've just had confirmation that the divorce has been finalised smile

Haven't been on mumsnet for quite a while, but I just wanted to say an enormous THANK YOU to everyone who ever posted on any of my threads about my EA, 'depressed', officially XH.

I couldn't have done it without you. You stopped me from breaking so many times.

Now I'm incredibly happy. New bloke, new area, new job, new life.

If I'd known this was what life should be I would never have put up with it for so long.

So, thank you MN, you're all amazing

X

Sidge Wed 30-Jan-13 15:23:03

Lovely to hear that you're so happy smile

garlicblocks Wed 30-Jan-13 15:28:02

Whoo-hoo! Congrats grin

<does a silly freedom dance for YouKnow>

bongobaby Wed 30-Jan-13 15:33:07

passing you a large glass of wine, happy days x

Isn't it a wonderful feeling when you hear that? I got that news myself back in January. Time for a celebration? I bought a bottle of champagne and have kept it (empty now of course, and I usually don't drink!) as a candle holder on the table.

Well done, enjoy your freedom!

Champagne is definitely called for smile

Thank you

He has been such an absolute dick in the past year. Coming out with the old cliches of :-
"I never call the kids in the two weeks between visits because it hurts so much",
in relation to my saying we needed to maintain civility, "it's hard because I just don't like you Crunch" (to which I replied in exasperation "I can't see how that's relevant")
In relation to his new girlfriend "she's a social worker so we'll get the kids taken off you"
And finally "I'm going to work abroad so I'm busier and don't have to think about the kids as much"

What a twunt.

And I'm FREEEEEEEEEEEEEE

CogitoErgoSometimes Wed 30-Jan-13 15:56:19

You'll be avoiding any 'depressed' men like the plague from now on, won't you? (I know I do) smile

I certainly will.

He even sent a text thanking me for all our time together. I just see it as one long waste of my life when I could have been happy. My dcs are wonderful, but that's no thanks to him.

WarmFuzzyFun Wed 30-Jan-13 16:02:57

Dear Crunch, I am thrilled for you smile your life is full of opportunities and potential where once it was stagnant and stale.

Here's to 2013 being a great year for you!

I am a little envy about new fella, lucky you, mine is on order wink

WFF I'm sure he'll be along any minute now ;)

And I could easily gush about new fella for hours but you'd all be sick, so I shan't. The only really blush moment was when I cried because he remembered my favourite sandwich. Made me realise how low my expectations were.

He actually likes doing things for me, and I for him. It's all so alien and so nice.

2013 is looking rather good

I'm so sorry I'm so horribly smug grin

PostBellumBugsy Wed 30-Jan-13 16:48:26

Yeeeeeehah! Good for you. Nearly 8 years on from my Absolute & I still don't have any regrets.
Enjoy, drink champagne & be happy. grin

HotDAMNlifeisgood Wed 30-Jan-13 17:00:44

Congratulations!

I threw a party when I got the official divorce decree from my abusive ex. It felt great!

A divorce party sounds like a great plan. If only I'd kept some of the wedding cake grin

Just thinking about him makes my skin crawl, it's so liberating to know that I'm now unmarried.

The number of times AF told me to get rid of his dead weight - seems like a lifetime ago.

Never again will I be afraid in my own home.

MusicForTheMasses Wed 30-Jan-13 17:06:57

Congratulations (and a bit of jealousy thrown in!)

Lueji Wed 30-Jan-13 17:08:10

Congratulations!!!

smile

Thank you and thank you.

DP has just called to say he's bringing champagne home!

He's so lovely!

lovelytoes Wed 30-Jan-13 17:47:00

Congratulations!!!! Im waiting for decree nisi to come through i signed acknowledgement of service on 21st jan.he is divorcing me even though i left him for his abusive behaviour.ive been left 3 years and am in a wonderful relationship and couldnt be happier we are planning to marry as soon as im divorved.how long do you think it will take?

Joy5 Wed 30-Jan-13 17:51:46

Congratulations, and i'm so pleased to hear you're so happy now, gives me hope for the future.

My decreee absolute was due the first week in Jan, but i've yet to receive confirmation (ex filed papers), so i'm waiting before i celebrate too!

But i will get there like you, don't care how long it takes, but i will sort myself out, and be the best mum i can for my two youngest sons, and make a new life for myself too.

Thanks again for sharing, it really does give me hope, if you can do it, then so can i smile

It was all very straightforward, it's 7 weeks exactly from the decre nisi coming through. So if you've had your court hearing done you should be free in less than 2 months (have to wait 6 weeks as I'm sure you know). If he's divorcing you then he'll be the one to apply for the decree absolute, so it'll be a bit dependant on him sorting it out.

Isn't it great?

I wish I could go back to the old me and tell her how happy she'll be. I have literally never been so relaxed and content, and the dcs too.

Joy, there certainly is hope.

I will never settle for misery ever again. Being alone is a million times better than being unhappily married, and being in an equal, loving relationship is even better.

trustissues75 Wed 30-Jan-13 17:55:45

CONGRATULATIONS! What are you doing to celebrate?

I'm still waiting for mine...we've been separate over 2 years with the divorce so far going on over a year...I can't wait to have my very own divorce party. We've never been happier since the twunt walked out of our lives.

Trustissues, I haven't a clue! It's only just sinking in that I'm free smile

I'm open to suggestions wink

trustissues75 Wed 30-Jan-13 18:35:34

You want a list?

Here goes...

Very naughty weekend up in the Scottish Highlands at a castle.
Girls "anti-hen" party in London.
Trash the wedding dress party complete with paint, scissors, petrol....oh, and a fire extinguisher.
Doing something that he specifically disapproved of you doing
.....not done yet...this is all pretty tame really...let my imagination work on it!

Excellent! Keep them coming! I'm especially loving the trashing of the wedding dress, and the dirty weekend of course wink

Got the biggest hug from dp when he came in.

smileyforest Wed 30-Jan-13 22:58:40

Got my absolute on 28th Jan..... from EA exH.....he said.... 'I would never do it'! and no-one would ever want me!! How wrong he has been....estatic!!! x

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