Firstly an apology as this will be very long and rambley but I need to get it out and I can't talk to anyone in RL.
Have been with DP 4 years now, he bought us a house and we have a mortgage, I am 4weeks pg (planned so we were thrilled with the news) and planning to marry in a few weeks as I want to be a proper family before DC arrives.
We have always had our moments as with any relationship there is good and bad.
But recently issues between us have reached boiling point, DP works full time but only just manages to keep a roof over our heads and has no desire to find a better job I don't earn a lot as I only work part time and I'm still studying and paying rent on a flat, car insurance, bills at the flat etc. So I never have any spare cash, any I do goes straight into the house DP & I share which in comparison to his contribution is nothing and I understand and appreciate that he has invested a lot of money, but all I seem to get is him saying its "his house and he'll do whatever he pleases, he bought it so I cant tell him what to do in his house" (ie doing his own washing for once!!). This all reached boiling point a few days ago when he started shouting about all this as his card had been declined and we're still a very long way from pay day. An argument built up and escalated, there was a lot of pushing and pulling (on both parts) and I've gone back to my flat.
I do love DP but I don't know if I can cope with the mood swings and never having any money- that might sound shallow but all I can think is its ok now not to ever have the heating on but when dc arrives what will we do then? How will we cope financially? How will we be able to buy nappies or food? Will the arguing continue? How will that affect dc?
If we were to separate though I would have no where to go.
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LovesCheeese · 29/01/2013 11:10
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