Do I say something........? Arggghhhhh

[HumanBeing]

Bit of a NC here.

So, I have been dating a guy for a year

It has never been exclusive, always just a bit of a laugh. We go out, have drinks, have some fun and occasionally sleep together.

But more recently, we have started seeing a lot of each other, meeting his friends, him cooking dinner and him just being generally rather nice and 'boyfriendy'. We have never really discussed this, it has just sort of happened. We genuinely get on and have lots to talk about and in common.

So, the weirdest thing has now happened. He seems to have totally gone nervous / or has withdrawn (?) on the affection front. Resulting in him actually finding it hard to get hard . I really don't get it.

It's not even like I've said I want a 'relationship', in fact I have confirmed the opposite - I don't want a relationship. And he is "Confirmed Bachelor" so I think he is happy with this.

We had 'the problem' last night and I just don't know whether to say something? We just sort of ignored it for a while and then went on to cuddling and sleep. Just awkward.

Why would this happen? And do I say something?

[CogitoErgoSometimes]

Yes, say something. Not about one half-hearted erection, obviously, but about the lack of affection, the backing off, the nervousness. I think the traditional start to the sentence is 'where do you see this relationship going?'.... and however much you protest, you are in a relationship ..... that gives him the opportunity to say 'too fast' or whatever it is that's bothering him.