Me and OH have been together for 8 years, since we were teenagers. We have a two year old son together.
We had a conversation about hypothetical cheating a few months ago, something like 'what would you do if I...' etc, and something about his face and the things he said rang alarm bells. I always know when he's lying to me. Something didn't sit right with me, I really can't explain it. I looked at him funny and he got defensive, ended the conversation. Since then, I've been bothered by it.
Two days ago, during a silly argument, I decided to bluff it out of him. I told him I'd found out what he did, and that he may as well tell me the truth. He asked what I knew, I told him I knew he cheated. A big bluff. I had no idea for sure.
He didn't deny it. In fact, we had a three hour argument/heated discussion wherein he was trying to find out exactly what I knew and about what, which confirmed my suspicions. He eventually told me that three and a half years ago, just before DS was conceived, during the time we were living apart to give me space, he trawled a website, and arranged to meet a woman to have sex.
He insists that he only went to meet her, and at the last minute, whilst in her living room, changed his mind, and went home.
Naturally, my mind is screaming bullshit. But I don't know. Not for sure. I don't believe him, how can I? And then I have moments where I do, and all the time I'm feeling shit and betrayed and regretting ever pushing to find out, because we were so happy and living our lives. And it was THREE YEARS AGO, and we were completely different back then and we weren't parents. And if I never found out we'd be exactly the same and he'd still be the man I fell in love with, and nothing would be different.
I don't have anyone to talk to. I don't want to talk to him. I don't know what to do.
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VeryLittleWonder · 28/01/2013 21:42
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