Numerous threads about ex(lazy, selfish, unreasonable etc etc etc)
He has overnight access on a mon and thurs and day time access on a Sunday with ds who is 2.
Ex has shirked his responsibilities all if his life, swapped contact numerous occasions, cancelled it for social gatherings and football etc.
His mum visited at Xmas and was apparently appalled at how much I "control" the situation of contact. Btw I'd alway been flexible(far far too flexible).
Since Xmas ex has made an effort to be sober on a Sunday and to ensure he is available at times of his overnights. I went back to solicitor to formalise ones and she mentioned his bullying tactics, lack of reliability and all was well( I've not heard from a solicitor on ex's behalf btw).
Today ex texted me asking me to swap nights as he was unwell(flu, I've had it a week also). I said no, flexibility did not work. And to see how he felt nearer drop off time. Rang him just before drop off and he said he wasn't well enough to have ds. Then moaned about how he is entitled to another night in place of this one.
In saying no based on me having always worked around him (not to mention ds) and the fact this is the third time in a fortnight he has asked to swap.
An I being unreasonable?? Why am I dreading the fall out from this??
I've always always stuck to my side of agreement, ds is ready to go to ex at agreed times each week but I have simply had enough of being manipulated and controlled.
Ex has spent the last week telling me how sorry he is. How he recognises the abuse he put me though and that he will win me back. I absolutely do not want this and have told him exactly that.
We have has this cycle whereby ex clicks his fingers and demands and if I say no or disagree he throws his toys out of the pram. I'm actually proud that in getting stronger but am worried that this will look like in withholding contact or preventing his and ds's relationship.
Opinions greatly appreciated
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Looks like ex is going to kick off. Again!
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Wereonourway · 28/01/2013 17:40
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