Attracted to another woman

[confusedabouther]

I have name changed for this. I'm mid twenties, no DC, have been single for 18 months or so. I have low self confidence so don't go out partying and don't have a huge amount of friends either but have plenty of hobbies.

There is a woman who I know through work who I have felt drawn to pretty much since I started working there (about a year). She is openly gay (and single) whereas I have always thought that I am straight, however I have a huge crush on her. I don't know if I want a sexual relationship with her but I think about her a lot and think about being close to her, kissing her etc. I've never even considered the possibility before that I might be bisexual and I'm really confused about what to do. My family is a bit homophobic so I can't talk to them about this. I don't know whether I should just go for it, ask her to meet me after work one night for a drink and tell her how I feel, or carry on as I am and try to forget about these feelings. WWYD if you were me? Oh an sorry if this sounds teenage angsty but I've not really had these sort of feelings for anyone before or if I have they soon disappear but this has been going on for a while now!

[OneMoreGo]

Have you seen the Turning Tavern thread on here? There are lots of people in exactly the same situation as you :) I was where you are a year or so ago and I am now dating a woman after thinking I was straight most of my life (am 29). I am definitely bisexual and was in denial I guess - perhaps due to homophobic parents, also.
I will have a look for the thread and post the link here.

[OneMoreGo]

Here you go!

[puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE]

I was also going to tell you about the turning tavern thread.

Also, it could just be a friend crush.

[confusedabouther]

Oh no i hadnt seen that thread i will have a read through, thanks

[joblot]

You're an adult, go for it. Most gay women have started off straight- it's the only option you're aware of usually. It's not bad or wrong to be gay but it is less common.

So give it a go. Many families are homophobic but most get over it when they realize actually it's not bad or scary just normal and healthy. Many fears are borne out of ignorance. Good luck, I know how frightening it is but it's worth facing the fears and doing it. If you decide it's not what you are, you will have lost nothing but gained an experience