My friend has given me permission to write this there and get your opinions as she doesn't come here. Its a sticky situation to say the least and we could do with looking at it with fresh eyes. Here it goes:
I am very close to my friend that I will call "Funky Friend", she is fun and attractive, with a strong personality. She is also very very close to this other girl who i could say is my friend too but lately we haven't been as close, but not a problem about that, just how life goes. Lets call this other girl "MumsyWife" because she seems to be more of her partners mum than his wife. She is a bit older, cooks for him, does everything for him, they have a neraly 6 year old and she doesn't have many more friends and other things to do apart from them and Funky Friend.
I have heard from yet another person in the past, maybe 4 years ago that MumsyWife's partner, lets call him Wandering HUsband, has cheated on her, unashamedly in at least one party. But that was left like that.
Talking to Funky Friend the other day, she tells me that after all had dinner at her house at Christmas Eve, Funky Friend has a partner and a child too, Wandering Husband texted her from outside her house asking her to come out and telling her he wanted her basically. She ignored the texts, as she wasn't sure who he was as she didn't have his number recorded on her phone. The next day MumsyWife told her that Wandering Husband had gone to a party but only stayed for 30 min. and came back home. Funky Friend checked the messages again and realise it was him. Next time she saw him (she walkes her DS to school and often Wandering Husband will give her a lift to work from there, kids go to the same school) in the car she told him jokingly and to get an explanation and apology, how drunk he was and what stupid things he said. He then said, he wasn't that drunk and that he meant it. Then he continued texting her over the week wanting to meet her, telling her he dreamt with her and didn't want only dreams and stuff like that.
She showed me the messages. I told her to immediately tel MumsyWife, that if it was me I'd like to know to dump the bastard! BUT... apparently many years ago MumsyWife had anothering Wandering Boyfriend who also chased Funky Friend and when Funky Friend told her MumsyWife went ballistic with her, blaming her and they fell out big time for many months. A few years ago Funky Friend heard the same rumous as me about Wandering Husband and hinted something to MumsyWife and she completely denied it and gor a bit cross that Funky Friend thought this.
SO, that is how things are; Funky Friend loves her like a sister, doesn't want to lose her, MumsyWife's son calles her auntie and with DS's have a very close friendship too, I mean they do most things (hobbies, outings, etc.) toghether, and this could potentially break all this up.
no need to explain that Funky Friend is completely disgused with Wandering Husband and we couldn't find the nastiest words to describe his betrayal.
So, the quaestion is, what would you do? would you tell MumsyWife, even knowing that she might deny it all and break the relantionship? Just leave it like that as they might me a chance that she know he is like that and decides to ignore it...
Its all very sad because he has come in between a very very long strong friendship, longer that he has been in the picture and it could destroy his family, friendship between two girls and freindship between DS's. Such a fucking selfish bastard!!
Anyway. Any thought apreciated. Thanks.
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Friends wandering husband after another friend... (sorry long)
Kione · 26/01/2013 14:07
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