calidadsuprema
Fri 25-Jan-13 23:52:11
Hi - namechanged for this.
DP and I have been together almost 3 years. We moved in together a few months ago.
Over the festive break I was looking in the medicine drawer for a sticking plaster and came across about 4 condoms tucked in a paracetomol box. We don't use condoms. Date on them was 2014. I assumed DP might have had them since before we met so said nothing at the time.
Fast forward to tonight - my DD felt unwell so I went to medicine drawer for Calpol sachets. For some reason I remembered the condoms and had a look for them. They are missing. DP is 3 days into a 10 day overseas work trip 8 hours time zone ahead. He doesn't usually travel overseas with work. I have put 2 and 2 together and don't like what I am thinking.....I sent a text about half an hour ago to tell him what I have found, saying that it does not look good from where I am standing.
AnyFucker
Sat 26-Jan-13 00:11:17
OP, the condom thing could be innocent, but "posh wanking" it ain't
calidadsuprema
Sat 26-Jan-13 00:11:32
sarah, yes the paracetomol box thing is confusing me a bit. He is a bit of a neat freak, so fitting things into boxes not to have them scattered through the medicine drawer would be his thing
AnyFucker
Sat 26-Jan-13 00:12:26
My medicine cabinet has random things wedged into different boxes to keep it all tidy
SwedishEdith
Sat 26-Jan-13 00:13:42
Ask him for the expiry date?
sarahseashell
Sat 26-Jan-13 00:15:11
ok and could be 'hiding' from dd I suppose - but if you don't use them why is he keeping them? perhaps for emergencies if you're on the pill I suppose.. did you use them at the beginning of the relationship or has he had them over 3 years?
vigglewiggle
Sat 26-Jan-13 00:15:15
He could buy more out there, but he has had 3 days when he didn't know he would be rumbled. If he bring back 4 unused condoms, but with differing use-by dates then she has her answer.
calidadsuprema
Sat 26-Jan-13 00:15:58
AF, that's what he does - e.g lemsip sachets in with sticking plaster etc. He does need paracetomol right now for back pain. We have been v happy since we moved in so this is a it of a shock to me.
AnyFucker
Sat 26-Jan-13 00:17:20
I do that, cal
you said the work trip was unusual
what do you mean by that ?
do you think he might have engineered a jaunt somewhere ?
calidadsuprema
Sat 26-Jan-13 00:18:06
I am on pill and have infertility issues as well (pill for endometriosis). Embarrassed to admit we never used condoms even at start....not smart I know.
calidadsuprema
Sat 26-Jan-13 00:19:46
Message withdrawn at poster's request.
ArmyOfPenguins
Sat 26-Jan-13 00:20:26
If he generally puts different things in different boxes, would he not have checked that the paracetamol box actually contained paracetamol before packing it?
AnyFucker
Sat 26-Jan-13 00:20:37
No, not smart. But not really the point here.
Will you ask to see the 4 condoms on his return, cal?
AnyFucker
Sat 26-Jan-13 00:21:19
Who else is on the trip ?
dequoisagitil
Sat 26-Jan-13 00:21:22
Look, it's simple.
Do you and dh need condoms?
Is there any plausible* excuse he needs condoms?
* plausible is dependent on what you can forgive.
As others have said "posh wank" is a total myth.
calidadsuprema
Sat 26-Jan-13 00:23:42
Yes, I will check on his return. Have been through a difficult divorce in last 4 years so thought DP one of the good guys - so far he has been fantastic...but feeling a bit confused at the moment
chewingguminmyhair
Sat 26-Jan-13 00:25:11
Yes, men actually do posh wanks. They really do. It's an option.
calidadsuprema
Sat 26-Jan-13 00:25:15
He is not on trip with anyone he works with. He is in quite a senior role in his industry and has been asked on trade mission by economic development agency for our part of UK
dequoisagitil
Sat 26-Jan-13 00:25:47
I have a feeling that my plausible, will not be yours.
ArmyOfPenguins
Sat 26-Jan-13 00:26:24
"For some reason I remembered the condoms and had a look for them."
Did you have a feeling something was not right?
chewinggum - I'm a man. I don't. And when this came up once before, I asked around. None of my mates had even heard of a posh wank.
chewingguminmyhair
Sat 26-Jan-13 00:27:01
Not everyone is a cheating arsehole (as much as some posters on here like seem to think they are)
sarahseashell
Sat 26-Jan-13 00:27:02
OP my heart goes out to you- you need to be able to see him and chat with him and have-what- a week till he gets back. I hope you're okay. Could be a mix up who knows
SoggySummer
Sat 26-Jan-13 00:27:56
3 years ago would tie in with 2010 for a possible purchase of condoms. He may have used some before he met you. He may have mislaid some before he met you.
When I say lost - if a single bloke carries a couple of spare condoms in his waller, jacket pocket "just in case" then after time they will become crap - get lost damaged - may even be crinkled up in some pocket somewere perhaps?? I liken it to a tampax in my handbag - some are destined never to be used and chucked in the bin as they get damaged in the bag.
I think this is genuine if there was nothing before this to make you suspicious.
