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Missing condoms

(289 Posts)
calidadsuprema Fri 25-Jan-13 23:52:11

Hi - namechanged for this.

DP and I have been together almost 3 years. We moved in together a few months ago.

Over the festive break I was looking in the medicine drawer for a sticking plaster and came across about 4 condoms tucked in a paracetomol box. We don't use condoms. Date on them was 2014. I assumed DP might have had them since before we met so said nothing at the time.

Fast forward to tonight - my DD felt unwell so I went to medicine drawer for Calpol sachets. For some reason I remembered the condoms and had a look for them. They are missing. DP is 3 days into a 10 day overseas work trip 8 hours time zone ahead. He doesn't usually travel overseas with work. I have put 2 and 2 together and don't like what I am thinking.....I sent a text about half an hour ago to tell him what I have found, saying that it does not look good from where I am standing.

dequoisagitil Fri 25-Jan-13 23:56:03

There's no purpose for a condom.

dequoisagitil Fri 25-Jan-13 23:56:15

other

frustratedworkingmum Fri 25-Jan-13 23:58:29

could he have thrown them away?

deleted203 Fri 25-Jan-13 23:58:51

Oh dear. It doesn't look good. But the best thing you have done is to text him and confront him rather than burying your head in the sand and then driving yourself insane with worrying about it. You need to hear what he has to say before you do any more. Good luck.

calidadsuprema Fri 25-Jan-13 23:59:06

DP has just texted back to say that he had picked up the paracetomol for his trip and has the condoms (unused!) with him. Says he is vv happy to be with me and loves me. Genuine??

lubeybooby England Fri 25-Jan-13 23:59:47

condoms with a date of 2014 would have been purchased in around 2011/12

I have some from 2011 that have 2014 date

deleted203 Sat 26-Jan-13 00:02:20

Yes, I would think so. It sounds like an honest mistake. I would put it out of your mind and trust him, unless you have had doubts over his faithfulness before. I would just say, 'ok, I believe you' and perhaps discuss it further when he returns. It's perfectly reasonable in the circumstances to ask him why he took them, and even why he has them if you feel the need. They may be old ones.

Does he normally take parecetamol with him while travelling? But then again if he needed condoms, surely he could have bought some over there? What country is he in?

DeafLeopard Sat 26-Jan-13 00:03:34

YY to shelf life of condoms. It doesn't necessarily mean an affair as I've heard mention on MN of a posh wank

ArmyOfPenguins Sat 26-Jan-13 00:03:47

Why would he have taken them to the new house and then thrown them away?

He's cheating/planning to.

chewingguminmyhair Sat 26-Jan-13 00:04:02

Using them for a posh wank?

sarahseashell Sat 26-Jan-13 00:04:16

why were condoms in paracetamol box in the first place?

ArmyOfPenguins Sat 26-Jan-13 00:05:16

Sorry, x post. Hopefully he'll bring all four back then.

calidadsuprema Sat 26-Jan-13 00:05:28

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

vigglewiggle Sat 26-Jan-13 00:06:07

I would check the date on the condoms he brings back.

frustratedworkingmum Sat 26-Jan-13 00:07:02

I just googled and the shelf life of condoms seems to vary from company to company but some, trojan being an example hmm last up to five years.

What bugs me is tht they were in a paracetemol packet and not just in their own packet. But if i were hiding condoms from my partner id not leave them in the medicine cabinet so......... it depends on how much you trust him. Do you have chilren?

calidadsuprema Sat 26-Jan-13 00:07:29

The posh wank theory might fit...he does admit to wanking on UK overnight business trips....

frustratedworkingmum Sat 26-Jan-13 00:07:47

WTF is a posh wank?

calidadsuprema Sat 26-Jan-13 00:08:40

Frustrated - we do have kids, but none together. His teens visit and my DD (10) lives with us.

dequoisagitil Sat 26-Jan-13 00:08:44

Wanking into a condom to save mess, is a posh wank.

sarahseashell Sat 26-Jan-13 00:09:35

but why were the condoms in a paracetamol packet?

and don't they normally come in 3s or 12s?? confused

I'm a bit hmm that bringing these same 4 back proves he hasn't cheated! he could buy them out there

calidadsuprema Sat 26-Jan-13 00:09:39

I'm presuming a "posh wank" is a diy job into a condom to avoid mess??

AnyFucker Germany Sat 26-Jan-13 00:10:34

Posh wanking is a myth, perpetuated by those who make excuses for unfaithful men

ArmyOfPenguins Sat 26-Jan-13 00:11:06

Men don't have posh wanks.

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