Background: DP has bouts of severe depression. We've been together for 3 years & he's now on his 3rd round of this. I can cope with him being depressed but he refuses to come home. He stays at his mum's (30 miles away & close to wear his DSs live).
To be fair to him, he gets the shakes & sleeps a lot when he's depressed & he tells me he can't drive, which is probably true but he also refuses all offers of a lift. He only ever gets this bad when he's at his mum's - not once has he been stuck at my house.
I don't understand what triggers these periods, I don't know why he refuses to have anything to do with me. He might text but most of the time doesn't bother. He says he loves me & wants to be with me but he won't actually be with us.
I know this is bad for me & DS. Last year, DP disappeared to his mum's for 3 months. He kept sending me suicide threats & it was an awful time for me. I don't want to go through it again. But it's started. I think I need to walk away & not look back. But I love him... when he's ok he's really lovely & is brilliant with DS.
I know DP won't change & will always do this, won't he? I know I should walk away, for DS's sake. But I want my lovely partner back.
Not really asking for advice although it is welcome. I think I just needed to get this off my chest.
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I know what I should do but I can't... please be gentle
Grockle · 24/01/2013 22:14
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