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Red flag or grossly insensitive or what!!!

214 replies

Flabber · 24/01/2013 16:34

Just spent the night with new man, first night, this morning he said you know you are pretty now but you would be amazing if you lost some weight?

I was dumbstruck, he then said so you gonna lose some weight then

I'm a 14

Very upset I will be honest

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Charbon · 24/01/2013 16:36

Both.

You won't proceed will you?

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nickelbabe · 24/01/2013 16:37

both.

don't go out with him again

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PeppermintPasty · 24/01/2013 16:37

Dump the charmless fucker from a great height.

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Whatshappenedtous · 24/01/2013 16:37

OmgAngryAngryAngry ditch him how rude???
You wouldn't say "your a great kisser but would be great if you could extend your knob a few itches" Grin

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springlamb · 24/01/2013 16:38

I suggest you swiftly lose 12 stone of Him.
What an arsehole.

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AttilaTheMeerkat · 24/01/2013 16:38

He needs to be binned as of now.

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deleted203 · 24/01/2013 16:38

I'd have replied, 'I could do. Is there anything you could do about your small cock?'

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LengLogs · 24/01/2013 16:39

What a cock!

You should have replied with 'maybe you would have had a second shag if you'd kept your mouth shut,

Then left....

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Flabber · 24/01/2013 16:39

Aghh just made me feel lousy, I know there is straight talking, but christ I was taken aback and felt like a heifer

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puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE · 24/01/2013 16:40

LTB

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StretchVelvet · 24/01/2013 16:40

"You wouldn't say "your a great kisser but would be great if you could extend your knob a few itches" grin"

Actually this sounds like the best break up line for OP to use with this git Grin

Another firm vote to dump, OP. If he's saying that now, he'll be a total twunt after 6 months and your self esteem will be non existent.

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TheCrackFox · 24/01/2013 16:40

Dump him pronto. He will only get worse.

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izzyizin · 24/01/2013 16:41

Did you tell him he was pretty average good in bed but he'd be amazing if he gained a few inches in the length of his dick?

See him for what he is, honey. A one night stand that you won't be in any danger of repeating with him.

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izzyizin · 24/01/2013 16:42

Xpost with Stretch - great minds and all that Grin

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Flabber · 24/01/2013 16:42

I'm still stunned, he doesn't think anything is wrong

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ShatnersBassoon · 24/01/2013 16:43

Dump him. He's horrible.

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flubba · 24/01/2013 16:45

Dump, dump, dump.

Arsehole.

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 24/01/2013 16:46

LOL!!! You know the answer to that one, don't you?....

"At least I can lose a bit of weight ... there's nothing you can do about being a fuckwit"

Hope you told him to sod off.

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Charbon · 24/01/2013 16:46

he doesn't think anything is wrong

you do though, don't you OP? (Stern glare)

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Flabber · 24/01/2013 16:49

Yes, I thought it was a horrid thing to say? especially after spening the night together for the first time?

In shock a bit I think that a man thinks its ok to say that

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DrGoogleWillSeeYouNow · 24/01/2013 16:50

You are going to dump him aren't you?

Tbh I'm surprised you even need to run this past MN. I can't believe he wasn't dumped on the spot.

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SolidGoldBrass · 24/01/2013 16:51

Definitely dump. If he asks why, say, 'Because you're an insensitive prick with lousy manners and not enough sense to know that insulting someone you've had sex with is a bad move.'

Because to say something like that to you shows that he considers himself much more important and powerful than you. He's decided he's entitled to pass judgement on you and tell you what you need to change and he expects to be obeyed.

I bet he was a fairly rubbish shag, as well.

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Flabber · 24/01/2013 16:51

I was actually fighting back tears, and left shortly afterwards

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 24/01/2013 16:52

I used to work with a woman who went out with a guy a couple of times. He said something similar and she didn't immediately drop-kick him down the hall the way I hope you're going to.... After a few more dates he was telling how her hair would be nice if it was cut different, what clothes to wear, how to arrange the contents of her cupboards ... blah... blah... blah. Finally she saw the light!

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Charbon · 24/01/2013 16:53

I think the final nail in the coffin was when he followed up with the expectation that having delivered his mighty judgement, you were going to act on it. Sort of 'The Man Has Spoken'.......

Awful.

Dump and tell him why.

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