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Daft or avoid?

(27 Posts)
talie101 Sun 20-Jan-13 16:18:16

Been seeing a man, guess it's a fling at the moment but could turn into a relationship. Not introduced the dc's and he has none. He prefers women to be shaved completely and wear plain white cotton pants. (I have no problem with this if it's just myself involved) but - Am I overthinking things here/being daft or would you avoid entering into a relationship with this man if you have young dd's? (I am a bit more sensitive to things like this due to own experiences - but the above reminds me of young children!).

ArtsMumma Sun 20-Jan-13 22:55:29

The hair-free thing wouldn't raise an alarm as much as the plain pants, it just seems too specific and makes me think of little girls too. I would avoid like the plague.

Numberlock Sun 20-Jan-13 20:33:15

Is he a regular porn user?

jjgirl Sun 20-Jan-13 20:30:07

Has he mentioned wanting to video anything?

shine0ncrazydiamond Sun 20-Jan-13 19:19:15

Ah yes... he states a preference for the shaven look and he MUST be a paedophile hmm That makes an awful lot of them knocking about.

Maybe the OP should come back and explain a little more about the context.

MushroomSoup Sun 20-Jan-13 18:20:06

Oooh he might be a very nice man with a bit of a fantasy - but he wouldn't be coming anywhere near MY girls.

izzyizin Sun 20-Jan-13 18:18:07

If you've got dds, forget about NOW. Dump the fucker yesterday.

izzyizin Sun 20-Jan-13 18:16:51

Dump the fucker. NOW.

KumquatMae Sun 20-Jan-13 17:40:53

If its a preference, something he quite likes but would quite happily see you with hair and different underwear, then in the absence of any other possible weirdnesses I would let it go. If he keeps on about it or can't achieve/maintain an erection without it I would leave him.

Absoluteeightiesgirl Sun 20-Jan-13 17:34:00

Good lord....avoid.

All depends for me, on when and how the subject was brought up?

Sarahplane Sun 20-Jan-13 17:19:01

That's really creapy. I'd avoid him.

GetOrf Sun 20-Jan-13 17:18:17

I don't think it is necessarily an indicatior of an interest in pre-pubescent girls, rather it is the modern trend for women to take the lot off (not that I am on board with that at all).

Personally though I wouldn't want someone to dicate to me, so I would probably not carry on a relationship because he sounds like a bossy twat.

ManInBeige Sun 20-Jan-13 17:15:44

Hmm. Can't imagine asking a potential partner to do that. Wierd.

mcmooncup Sun 20-Jan-13 17:15:06

I would grow my pubes and purchase some black g strings. Hth wink

MarilynValentine Sun 20-Jan-13 17:02:48

Avoid. That preference does seem to reference children - no public hair, plain kid's style pants.

I would feel v uncomfortable introducing him to any young girls.

Avoid.

And if you dont, then take a LOOOONG time before you even think about introducing your kids.

PoppadomPreach Sun 20-Jan-13 16:35:32

Avoid. If you like someone, you take them as you find them, and don't prescribe how the should appear just to please you.

What puds said.

What's your relationship radar like?. Where did you meet this person (online?).

I would avoid a relationship with such a person regardless of whether I have children or otherwise.

shine0ncrazydiamond Sun 20-Jan-13 16:33:44

Depends.

A preference? We all have those.

It would depend < for me > on how the topic came up and exactly what he said. Him insisting you do it and/or banging on about it, is very different to you asking him specifically about his likes/dislikes and him venturing this as something he quite liked.

AuntieStella Sun 20-Jan-13 16:33:39

Well, I wouldn't depilate, but I would dress up.

As you've reached the stage where he felt comfortable in raising such a preference, you needn't be inhibited in asking what fantasy underlies his preference. If he's evasive, you might want to think again if you fear he's unduly interested in prepubescent girls. If however it turns out it's say tennis players, you might decide it's OK.

SirSugar Sun 20-Jan-13 16:33:15

avoid

Floralnomad Sun 20-Jan-13 16:33:10

Avoid.

Deathwatchbeetle Sun 20-Jan-13 16:31:05

Ewwwwww.

TurnipCake Sun 20-Jan-13 16:30:37

I've never been with a guy who has had such, umm specific preferences, so this would give me the willies to be honest.

TallyGrenshall Sun 20-Jan-13 16:21:05

What Puds said

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