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I miss the whole "dating" thing - does this mean my relationship is crap?

(13 Posts)
kalidanger Sat 19-Jan-13 23:08:56

Golly, my bf and I were doing it half-dressed on the doormat at 6 months grin

You sound young-ish, OP? Don't settle for this.

TyrannosaurusBex Sat 19-Jan-13 23:01:42

Six months in? You should be having the times of your lives. If you are bored with him now, the relationship has no future. Not sure why you find it sad that a man you're not crazy about won't be proposing. It's scary choosing to be single I know, but right now life is passing you by.

LouiseD29 Sat 19-Jan-13 22:37:49

Um, not a good sign to be feeling like that after just six months! Sounds to me like you already know what you need to do...

izzyizin Sat 19-Jan-13 21:59:54

I found myself thinking earlier that if we did split, I'd look forward to the carefree dating that seems to be the norm these days - date a few guys at a time, have a laugh, have fun! But I shouldn't even be thinking like this should I??

Has some law been passed to restrict the number of topics citizens are allowed to think about? confused

Given that you'll expire of boredom if you stick with Mr Gogglebox there's a lot of fun to be had from dating lots of guys until you find one that you are truly compatible with, you shouldn't just be thinking it - you should be out there doing it grin

What's stopping you?

badinage Sat 19-Jan-13 21:17:02

How sad is it that he wouldn't propose to you?

Not sad at all.

Presumably you wouldn't propose to him either?

If after 6 months you're feeling like this, it needs to end.

MarilynValentine Sat 19-Jan-13 20:57:29

I thought you were going to say you'd been married for eight years and what with the exhaustion of having kids the sparkle has dimmed, etc.

Six months in?! Blimey, end it. Don't waste any more time. And then get out there and start having fun.

When you're in love you don't miss dating.

Good luck!

ZZZenAgain Sat 19-Jan-13 20:54:18

tell him you want to go out?

Idlegirl83 Sat 19-Jan-13 20:51:10

If thats how you feel after only six months I think its time to move on.
Theres someone out there for you but he doesnt sound like the right one for you to be honest x

dequoisagitil Sat 19-Jan-13 20:48:11

The relationship sounds all wrong. I think you'd be better calling it quits.

BertieBotts Sat 19-Jan-13 20:42:22

He sounds like a bore indeed! I don't think it's about never having a pang of "Ooh, new relationship, first flush of love, aww" but what you describe sounds like a lot more and porkster's right - life's too short.

Porkster Sat 19-Jan-13 20:36:16

I agree with Cleo - life really is too short to put up with a sub standard relationship. Sometimes people think it's better than being alone, I'd rather be alone.

OhToBeCleo Sat 19-Jan-13 20:31:41

Nope! Writing's on the wall if you ask me. Life's too short to waste time on a relationship that appears to be going nowhere. Can you identify what's good about it? that would be a start.

LacryMe Sat 19-Jan-13 20:11:42

Just been watching a film about two guys dating the same girl. All very silly, comedy stuff but it made me realise I really miss those early days. The first time you hold hands, the excitement, the unknown, no serious shit grinding you down, just having fun and enjoying other people's company.

I've been in a relationship about 6 months and I just feel that it's plagued with problems and insecurites. I think the problem is that we moved it on very quickly and we've arrived at a limbo stage where we can't go back to the easy carefree days but we can't move it on any further either as the next step would be marriage/living together which really is too quick. We don't do anything anymore, we never go out, we don't talk much as it always descends into crossed wires, one of us wanting to move things on, one of us wanting to slow things down, each denying what we earlier said - it's just all such a mess. I think he enjoys my company as I do his but love? we say it, I mean it when I say it but when I really think about it I'm not sure it's true. I don't know if he means it when he says it or if he just says it because he knows I enjoy hearing it. One of my friends said to me the other day "when can we expect to hear wedding bells from you two?" and I burst out laughing because I know full well he'd never propose to me. How sad is that? We just seem to sit in front of the TV all the time. I found myself thinking earlier that if we did split, I'd look forward to the carefree dating that seems to be the norm these days - date a few guys at a time, have a laugh, have fun! But I shouldn't even be thinking like this should I??

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