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Absolutely furious at bastard ex!!!! Rant alert

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Donttrustmyselfanymore · 18/01/2013 20:40

So I discovered today that my emotionally abusive ex has given me chylamidia (think that's how it's spelt) sorry for TMI but I'm to embarrassed and ashamed to talk to anyone in real life. We split up a couple of weeks ago, so I got tested last week to be safe ad found out today. I'm so mad. We haven't had any contact since split but I want to call and scream at him.

What makes it worse is th only time I can pin it down to being is when he went out for a friends birthday last October. He stayed out the night an was very shady the next day, his story of the night/where he stayed kept changing, in my gut I felt something was wrong but he told me it was my hormones (I was pregnant at the time) so I agreed and dropped it, stupid I know) I went on to lose the baby at 13 weeks in November. He left due to 'not being able to deal' with me losing the baby.

I've got no idea how I'm ever going to get over this, it just gets worse and worse.

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NomadsLand · 18/01/2013 20:47

My first (totally immature) reaction is for you to send him a cold message that you have been to a STD clinic and found out that you have HIV.

Then send him a message 2 hours later and say you were wrong: it's chylamidia. Your hormones made you read the results wrong.

Good luck

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Lueji · 18/01/2013 20:50

Less immature, it's to do the right thing and tell him that you have found out that you have a serious STI and that he should be checked out.

And let him stew about what the STI is until he has his results back.

Told you it was less immature. Wink

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Hissy · 18/01/2013 22:58

Immaturity is so underrated these days....

do it do it do it do it do it do it do it do it !

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Sneakymeezer · 19/01/2013 10:38

Ooh I like Lueji's suggestion!

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AKissIsNotAContract · 19/01/2013 10:44

You poor thing. At least you found out quickly. My friends ex gave her chlamidia when she was 18. It left her infertile.

You should let him know so he doesn't go on to infect other unsuspecting women. It doesn't affect men nearly as badly as women.

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