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If anyone is still awake, please help me

(96 Posts)
SneakyNuts Thu 17-Jan-13 23:14:21

I don't know how to word this, I can't even be bothered to name change

I woke 'D'P up earlier as he had fallen asleep on the sofa- when he woke. He swung at me sad

I suggested he go to his parents for the night and that he had scared me. Then he smashed up my laptop which had the only copies of all Dd's photos.

I'm fucking devastated

Are you safe now? Is he out of the house?

tribpot Thu 17-Jan-13 23:16:22

Has he gone? Have you phoned the police? Or his parents?

Your laptop's hard disk may be retrievable, but that can wait for another day. You need to make yourself safe tonight.

TurkeyDino Thu 17-Jan-13 23:16:58

I don't have much advice, sorry. I'm sure someone better will be along soon.

Try to get some rest and make plans in the morning. Get bank statements/passports/credit cards together. Do you own your house together?

As for the laptop, if you take it to a computer shop they may be able to retrieve the images.

Thinking of you OP.

SneakyNuts Thu 17-Jan-13 23:18:03

I told him to leave but he said he'll sleep on the sofa.
I'm in bed crying my heart out

SneakyNuts Thu 17-Jan-13 23:18:51

Nothing is in joint names
We are renting thank god

ThatVikRinA22 Thu 17-Jan-13 23:19:06

has he been drinking?
is this usual behaviour for him?

BitBewildered Thu 17-Jan-13 23:19:06

I'm here, too. No advice, but I'm around.

Has he gone? Hot, sweet drink seems a good idea.

LemonDrizzled Thu 17-Jan-13 23:20:33

Sorry OP. Had he been drinking? Has he been aggressive before? Does he have previous for this sort of thing or is he stressed out at the moment for any reason? How are things generally?

SneakyNuts Thu 17-Jan-13 23:22:31

He hasn't been drinking.

The last time he acted like this was about 18 months ago before I was pregnant.

I thought things were fine. We had just started saving for a deposit and talked about having more children

Walkacrossthesand Thu 17-Jan-13 23:23:43

How can we help?

AnyFucker Thu 17-Jan-13 23:25:00

Leopards and spots

It doesn't matter if he has been drinking, if he is stressed, if his puppy died when he was 4 fucking years old

Aggression is a deal breaker. or it should be. Don't stick around to teach your children that putting up with physical abuse is what women do.

I think you need to call the police, he may not have assulted you but he tried to and smashing things up is not acceptable behaviour and really he should be made to leave the house.

Walkacrossthesand Thu 17-Jan-13 23:26:01

What I mean is, was it practical advice about laptop & DD photos you wanted (agree with posters above, keep laptop safe as computer shops can work wonders with retrieving data) or hand-holding about situation you are in?

tribpot Thu 17-Jan-13 23:26:38

So he's done it before. And you didn't leave him that time - in fact you had a child with him.

It seems reasonable for him to suppose you might say he has to leave but you won't make him. You'll feel too guilty because of your dd and you'll stay and it will happen again.

Can you go to your parents?

Would you call the police?

"So he's done it before. And you didn't leave him that time - in fact you had a child with him."

Well, quite.

What do you plan to do?

CleopatrasAsp Thu 17-Jan-13 23:29:38

OP, my husband has a computer repair business. Don't worry about the photographs, unless the hard drive is smashed you can probably get the photgraphs retrieved.

As for the rest, I think it is time to leave this man. There's no excuse for him behaving like this. Please be safe.

BettySuarez Thu 17-Jan-13 23:32:17

Please call the police OP - he has just tried to assault you sad

ThatVikRinA22 Thu 17-Jan-13 23:33:28

is there anywhere you can go with your child tonight?

your safety is paramount.
what is his excuse? or is he generally such a pillock? whats the back story op?

ThatVikRinA22 Thu 17-Jan-13 23:34:21

police could remove him to prevent breach of peace if thats what you want.

could be he goes to parents or friends - phone police if you dont feel safe.

lowercase Thu 17-Jan-13 23:34:44

another vote for call the police.

dont protect him!

protect you and your child

olgaga Thu 17-Jan-13 23:39:30

He tried to assault you, not for the first time. He's damaged your property, and he refused to leave - even though he could easily have gone to his parents.

First thing in the morning, when he's gone to work, I would call NCDV.

Do you want your DD to grow up thinking this is normal behaviour?

BitBewildered Thu 17-Jan-13 23:41:51

How are you OP?

SneakyNuts Thu 17-Jan-13 23:46:51

He's gone, I've told him its over.

AnyFucker Thu 17-Jan-13 23:48:12

Good. It would be best if you made it permanent this time.

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