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DH's gift to OW

(182 Posts)
madgered Thu 17-Jan-13 19:48:52

Tell me what you think. My DH gave OW a £250 bracelet for Christmas. I saw a text he sent saying; "Hi gorgeous. Happy Christmas x". He says it was just a flirtation and nothing sexual happened. He says they met a couple of times for lunch and spoke on the phone quite a lot. What would you think if you were me?

sarahseashell Thu 17-Jan-13 19:50:44

did he tell you about the bracelet or did you find out about it? you seem to know she's OW rather than a friend he's been for lunch with? What would I think? I'd think pack your bags tbh (him)

LeaveTheBastid Thu 17-Jan-13 19:50:48

Full blown affair. Whether that be sexual or emotional. A £250 bracelet... Jesus. What did you get?

AngryTrees Thu 17-Jan-13 19:51:46

I would think affair, and that the bracelet came as things were getting serious. Why else spend all that money and take the time to pick out a piece of jewellery? Certainly not for someone you met a couple of times for lunch..

mrsL1984 Thu 17-Jan-13 19:52:38

This reminds me of love actually where Alan rock mans character gave his bit on the side the necklace and his wife got a Joni Mitchell cd!! Chop off his balls!!!

cupcake78 Thu 17-Jan-13 19:53:25

Have to agree most likely an affair. Unless your dh is a bit odd, infatuated with ow and trying to get her interested.

badinage Thu 17-Jan-13 19:54:32

That they were having a physical and emotional affair and that I was married to a cheat and a liar who thought I was stupid.

Pancakeflipper Thu 17-Jan-13 19:54:50

I would be fuming, upset, distrustful, and have a lot of questions to ask him

greenpostit Thu 17-Jan-13 19:54:56

Either a full blown affair.

Or he is seriously trying to butter her up so she will have an affair with him.

No other possibilities IMO.

lemonstartree Thu 17-Jan-13 19:55:21

That's so sad :-( I would be heartbroken; and then I think very angry... what did you get ?

Oh and he is either having an affair with her, or hoping to

lunar1 Thu 17-Jan-13 19:55:48

I would think affair, spending all that family money on an ow would be as bad as sex in my books.

hermioneweasley Thu 17-Jan-13 19:57:04

Assuming he didn't say "I have a lovely friend, x. You know - I tell you when we've met up for lunch? Anyway I've seen a bracelet she'd really like but it's £250. Is it ok to spend family money n that? Also, I wanted you to know because trust is really important in our relationship and of course it would look odd if I bought expensive jewellery for another woman without telling you!". Assuming that conversation did not take place,then he's having an affair.

CogitoErgoSometimes Thu 17-Jan-13 19:58:07

I'd think you were married to a big, fat but remarkably generous liar....

madgered Thu 17-Jan-13 19:59:12

I found out about the bracelet when I saw the above text he sent.I had no idea until that moment that anything was going on. He admitted buying it for her. I later found the receipt. I got a jewellery box which I handed right back.

Numberlock Thu 17-Jan-13 20:00:02

Of course he's denying as much as he can. And know you're doubting yourself and not sure what to believe. All classic signs.

izzyizin Thu 17-Jan-13 20:03:19

So his bit on the side mistress got a £250 bracelet and you got a jewellery box with fuck all inside it?

Methinks 'tis time you consulted a solicitor who specialises in divorce and family law before he squanders more of the potential marital assets on getting his leg over with his fancy piece.

AnAirOfHope Thu 17-Jan-13 20:03:24

£250 shock

I would ask him to leave because i would see it as a) taking money from out children b) paying for sex and c) totally disrepectful to me and a dealbreaker

AbuseHamzaMousseCake Thu 17-Jan-13 20:04:36

You got an empty box and she got the bracelet, you don't need to ask. What you need to do is grow some.
Good luck.

AnAirOfHope Thu 17-Jan-13 20:06:30

(Also by the time the devioce was thru it would be an even more expensive gift and shag as i would take everything hes got <evil bitch emoicon>)

something2say Thu 17-Jan-13 20:07:37

Sorry Madgered xxx

You are divorcing him, right? What a shit.

I bet the only way he is backtracking is because he is scared of financial repercussions from you taking a divorce lawyer.

Uuum, anairofhope - just what I told my solicitor when I found that my STBExH had spent £1000's on his OW. It is still going to be jolly difficult to get any of that money back tho sad

OP - sorry, affair. What you do next is of course up to you, but it was a deal breaker for me.

TyrannosaurusBex Thu 17-Jan-13 20:13:25

Affair. So sorry.

Affair. I'm sorry he's such a cunt. I would be flipping livid.

Walk away from him and nail his bollocks to the wall on the way out

AnyFucker Thu 17-Jan-13 20:18:51

You sound very calm

Are you staying with your adulterous husband ?

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