This may be long, but i dont want to drip feed and at the same time its best to have a good picture..
Im 25, i have a friend whos almost 60. We met when we used to work together about 5-6 years ago (we both no longer work there and havent for several years). We have always had alot of contact, speaking on the phone several times a week, seeing each other once a week.
I have found over the years that whenever i see her i usually end up taking her somewhere local or taking her to the supermarket etc and then taking her back home with her shopping (even if i dont need to go to the supermarket myself).
My friend struggles alot with money, and never seems to be happy in her job. So this has resulted in her being a bit of a "moaner"
I cant remember the last time she said anything positive about anything.
Since i ve had my baby (12 weeks ago) i find her personality has become more irrating. I know this sounds awful. I feel shes constantly giving me advice, telling me to do certain things with my DD. I have noticed that when i take my DD to her house, when DD is crying, my friends response to DD is
"Shut up, shut up, shut up etc" This is said in a sharp tone, which i dont think she intends to be aggressive in her tone, but its something i dont like her saying TBH.
Or she will say "Whats all that noise" again in a sharp tone.
When she holds my DD, DD doesnt seem settled with her, and will scream until i hold her myself.
Im wondering if DD is doing this because shes associating her with that sharp tone. I dont know if at 12 weeks old she can do that.
Other comments are:
"shes spoilt already"
"she has you right weighed up"
My friend also constantly offers to mind my DD, which i have refused every single time.
I feel this friendship has run its course, and i dont wish to see her again.
I dont know how to break this friendship off, or if i have no real reason to discontinue the friendship.
I have spoken to my mum about her who has suggested just constantly never being available and too busy to meet whenever she wants to arrange something, but i know my friend will ask after afew times of me saying this, "whats the problem?"
I have enjoyed her company in the past and have enjoyed talking to her, but i have felt abit used by her in the past as i have a car etc.
Any advice on what to do with this situation?
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Is this friendship worth continuing?
Losingexcessweight · 12/01/2013 16:43
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