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would you date a transgendered man?

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ecofreeek Thu 10-Jan-13 19:02:47

I am in my late 30's and single (divorced). Recently though work I met a man who seemed really nice. We flirted a bit and last weekend he asked me out for a drink. It went really well, nice snog! and we arranged to meet for dinner this week

At dinner he told me that basically he used to be a woman. He has had testosterone treatment for many years and both breasts removed and a hysterectomy. But not the surgery that makes a penis...

I really like him. But I'm a bit freaked out. I guess that's why he told me 'early' in our dating... I dont want any more children s thats not an issue... its the whole man thing - he looks like a man, acts like a man and I would never have guessed that biologically he is not a male...

the sex thing ....

would you date a transgendered man >?

Oh, they don't all annoy me! Loads of psychologists are brilliant. I just think that psychology as a discipline has a disproportionate influence on the media, and the media isn't very good at interpreting psychological research.

There are a couple of psychologists I can think of who I genuinely think are charlatans (and I know psychology profs who tell me this, too), but there are also loads of good ones.

<off to google John Money>

Hullygully Thu 17-Jan-13 18:28:39

Anyone seen Suzanne oore today?

I did. Good - but horribly apologetic which made me a bit sad to see.

Loquace Thu 17-Jan-13 19:04:27

Got a link Hully

Italian TV won't oblige, has it been youtubed or is it in print?

CrunchyFrog Thu 17-Jan-13 19:08:04

I was quite disappounted to realise I was 100% hetero. It took actually going ahead and having sex with a woman to confirm it.
Very strange, I'd always thought I was bi, but I'm not. I like sex with men, lesbian sex wss perfectly pleasant but just not "right" for me.
I don't choose to have sex with people in possession of female genitalia at this time.

SolidGoldFrankensteinandmurgh Sat 19-Jan-13 22:00:04

I don't think there's anything so awful about considering whether or not you want to have sex with someone, and if you're not sure you do, examining why that's so. Someone asking, for instance, if s/he was wrong for hesitating over a possible sexual relationship with a member of a different ethnic group from his/her own might find it worthwhile unpicking whether the reluctance was down to prejudice or fear of having to deal with other people's prejudice - or just not being particularly sexually attracted to the other person. I think that might have been part of what the OP wanted to discuss when she started the thread.

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