Had my 20week scan last week. During scan, my phone went off and i was genuinely pleased as I thought it was DH eager to know about scan results. It wasn't, was a friend.
During journey back home (roughly an hour) I waited for a phone call after sending him a jokey text about the gender reveal, and nothing (he had finished work an hour before).
He was due to pick me up at the station and was an hour late, despite me telling him the train arrival times. Even then, he didn't ask, the reality is that it didn't even 'occur' to him to ask about the results. He didn't forget I had had the scan as I had called him just before the scan. He's not doing this maliciously, i do know that, and in every other way he is a very decent, kind, honest person which is why I try really really hard not to sweat the small stuff.
I can honestly say i've not met anyone like him in that regard, (don't even know the words to describe it - absent-minded? just not present?) , and just not at all concerned with things that would excite others. In the same vein, he isnt a great communicator when it comes to feelings/emotions. We are such different personalities, egs: I check my emails 4/5times a day and will deal with any responses as soon as possible, whereas he can go by weeks without opening his main email account. I'm always on time (indeed early) for anything, whereas he is mostly late. He has a very passive personality, while Im very anxious. I express my emotions, he doesn't. He doesnt enjoy kissing during sex, whereas it is very important to me, and so on.
Just reading this back retrospectively, I feel like I'm making a huge mountain out of a molehill and that my issues are so petty esp compared to the bigger picture. I do know what he's like after 12 years of marriage, but I don't know why I can't just let these small things go. He is a rock when it comes to things that are important, I guess I am being petty :(
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How do I stop sweating the small, small stuff? am I just neurotic?
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beingpettyornot · 09/01/2013 21:19
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