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Watching porn with my partner

(29 Posts)
HighTom Tue 08-Jan-13 18:29:11

My girlfriend has said she would like to watch a bit of porn with me. I think this would be quite nice for us. Neither of us are into anything weird or 'ewww' in porn.

Can you tell me what sort of thing I should get? I know you'll say 'ask her what she likes' but she says 'surprise me with something/you pick'.

It's a new relationship (2 months) so I don't want to ruin it by picking something she finds off-putting.

I'm just looking for general categories which you think would be a safe bet or definite no-nos - obviously from your point of view.

Would you be offended by lesbian porn? Or should I just stick to a fairly simple 'man + woman + normal sex' thing?

Thanks.

SomersetONeil Wed 09-Jan-13 18:32:32

The mainstream porn industry is pretty horrible, phoenixrose - maybe do some research if you're not aware.

My reaction to the OP was more the distinct unlikelihood of a young man (ooh!) coming on and asking a bunch of ^Mums for porn recommendations. grin

I mean, seriously. No disrespect to the likes of all of us. But really, would, you? As a single bloke? Ask some Mums?!

Just doesn't ring quite true. Where is Tom, but the way?

BertieBotts Wed 09-Jan-13 18:22:19

I think it's more about the fact that it's OP's first post... plenty of regular posters ask for sex tips and these threads are well received.

Also I think a lot of people look at porn, but unless you're specifically seeking out "ethical" stuff you'd probably be horrified at the reality of it. That's why people are implying it's a horrible industry to support - the mainstream porn industry is.

I consider myself a decent woman, but occasionally I watch porn. With and without my husband. These things are NOT mutually exclusive, and I'm offended by the implication that they are!!

carmenelectra Wed 09-Jan-13 12:59:33

Badinage I think you are right about the other threads, particularly one big one.

Muggins here has contributed too

SueFawley Wed 09-Jan-13 11:23:26

Apart from all the other arguments about porn, which I agree with, I have to point out how sad I think it is that a couple in a TWO MONTH relationship is already feeling the need for outside stimulus. Back in the old days, at two months you still couldn't keep your hands off each other without the need for looking at images of others having sex.

MadAboutHotChoc Wed 09-Jan-13 11:16:59

I'm surprised there's been such a strong reaction to this

Why? This is a board primarily for women after all hmm

Why would a decent woman (or man) want to contribute to the sex industry by wanking to images of vulnerable women being abused?

janelikesjam Wed 09-Jan-13 11:10:07

I am sure this is a male troll thread too, probably stoned (note the name).

PS, referring back to letting the man choose... if you DO end up choosing, don't pick porn featuring a skinny bony blonde chick if your girlfriend is a curvy brunette! My hubby made that mistake once and I obsessed about it for WEEKS!

I'm surprised there's been such a strong reaction to this - hubby and I have occasionally watched porn together when the mood strikes us. He usually lets me pick - a safe bet really as if he chooses the paranoia part of me will start comparing myself to whatever woman/women we're watching. If I pick, I usually choose an orgy type scenario, lots going on at once - and I don't like "plastic" porn so I try to find something a bit more obscure/amateur on You Porn or similar. I am much more fussy than hubby who will pretty much watch anything!!

On the offchance this is a genuine post, hope I have helped.

izzyizin Tue 08-Jan-13 23:10:45

'HighTom'? Surely that should be 'LowDownDick'?

Most porn 'actresses' are or once were vulnerable young girls, cronullansw. Maybe you should do your homework before implying that other mumsnetters are wrong about this fact.

cronullansw Tue 08-Jan-13 22:58:56

You should be ashamed of yourself - most porn actresses are slave traded drug addicted vulnerable girls forced into the act by evil pimps.

Or so I've been told on here by other MNetters, alternatively you could try the Pirate remakes as a nice gentle way of easing yourselves into the porn culture.

mammadiggingdeep Tue 08-Jan-13 20:17:57

Haha @ homework comment!! Just spat my tea out at that one!

'are you lost??'......lol........smile

whensteaready Tue 08-Jan-13 19:35:36

You do realize this is a parenting website.

CogitoErgoSometimes Tue 08-Jan-13 19:32:22

Could we have a code-word or something? < I'm crap at spotting set-ups emoticon>.

GlitteryShitandDanglyBaubles Tue 08-Jan-13 19:28:48

<puts on tinfoil hat>

They can't see me, they can't see me...

badinage Tue 08-Jan-13 19:19:01

With all these old Adultwork threads that have been bumped, it's my guess that Relationships is currently being besieged by male trolls.

There are a couple of sex-related/affair threads atm that are so clearly bollocks and have been written to show the woman OP as being entirely unreasonable and I'm convinced this lot are behind them.

SomersetONeil Tue 08-Jan-13 18:55:56

<snort>

You come onto Mumsnet and ask for porn recommendations??! grin

Are you lost...? Or do you just enjoy having the piss ripped?!

I read it as "prick" too.grin

CogitoErgoSometimes Tue 08-Jan-13 18:49:44

ROFL... sorry, I read that second paragraph as 'surprise me with something you prick'!!!

AThingInYourLife Tue 08-Jan-13 18:44:03

"Forget the porn. Get on with your homework."

grin

Are you listening, young man?

ArmyOfPenguins Tue 08-Jan-13 18:42:15

She's not mentioned watching porn together at all has she? You just think it would be nice.

extracrunchy Tue 08-Jan-13 18:40:10

IT'S A TEST!!!

impty Tue 08-Jan-13 18:39:45

ah cross posted... homeworkgrin

impty Tue 08-Jan-13 18:39:06

grin grin ^^ this

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